Found out he's very sick...
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| Thu, 12-30-2004 - 1:46am |
Tonight when I went in to work on some things, he was still there. I heard him saying that he is having major surgery next week. Turns out he really is ill as I had suspected before. I was feeling sympathy until his new girlfriend showed up and gave him a huge smile and hug, and his face turned blood red. Not sure what to make of that little exchange. But I decided that it was none of my business. He walked over to me to say hello (politely and professionally) and I noticed her watching me like a hawk (I seriously think he has told her about me, which makes me angry, since I neither know her nor trust her). I didn't say a word about his surgery. Later, I had to email him about what I was working on, and I briefly mentioned that I was sorry to hear about his health and that I would pray for him.
I'm not planning on sending him a card on my own but probably will sign the office card if we send one over. If people send individual cards, would it be cold and callous of me not to send one at all? Or should I send a "get well soon" and sign my family's name (since he addressed the Christmas card to all of us? OR just pretend that he doesn't exist? This is a difficult one.
Newsgal

Gal
Go with the office card if there is one, if there is not one SUGGEST one to the office manager, but don't do it yourself, makes you look to interested, besides your going to pray that has to be better then a card.
Free
I don't know the history of your relationship but agree that sending a card on your own may be inappropriate and might even be asking for trouble from the new gf. You mentioned her watching you and that you don't trust her so if she was to see the card, however innocent the gesture, she may interpret it differently. Certainly sign the office card and suggest one if you need to.
Best wishes for your New Year and hope he recovers well.
A man's got to do what a man's got to do.
A woman must do what he can't.

MSYou do like playing with fire, don't you, Newsgal?
If, as you suspect, his GF knows, then she has information sufficient to blow your marriage outta the water. If she's eyeing you up, you can bet she'll use it if her feathers start feeling an inappropriate breeze let alone get ruffled.
Don't forget that some men consider excavation of an ingrowing toenail to be "major surgery." Perhaps he's having an integrity augmentation procedure... Remember, too, even if it turns out to be heart bypass surgery, that by his very own choice it is his GF's job now to play Florence Nightingale.
Sure, sign an office Get Well card if one is arranged. In your shoes, I'd no sooner send an individual card to exOM than I'd chew on the business end of a wasp.
Just how done do you want to be, NG?
Wishing you strength & peace,
Posie
>>>>>In your shoes, I'd no sooner send an individual card to exOM than I'd chew on the business end of a wasp.<<<<
Posie,
LMAOPIMP......you certainly have a way with getting that point across!
Id
News
Personally, I would just sign an office card and not send a personal card at all. You're not obligated to do so, under the circumstances, and sending it with just your family's name is playing the same game he was.
As for the new girlfriend, I would just be real nice to her, because if she does know about your A with him, and you alienate her in any way, she could be devious enough to tell your husband in some form or another.
Silly