Found Out Today I Was "The Office Joke"

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Registered: 06-12-2009
Found Out Today I Was "The Office Joke"
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Mon, 07-26-2010 - 9:28pm

Tears are streaming down my face as I write this.

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Registered: 04-20-2009

Belle,
I disagree with you 100% and this is why. None of us has the right to involve ourselves in another's life in such an intimate and personal way. None of us, and I'm not just referring to we on this board, have the clarity of perception, the perfection of character, nor infallibility of judgment to presume that we are capable or justified to charge into somebody else's business and rock their world with this sort of announcement. It's the height of hubris to assume we know what is best for someone else and take it upon ourselves to think we can tell them what's what. We're not Joan of frickin' Arc, spoken to and guided by God to save this woman from her own bad judgment, even if she's being deceived -- which we could only presume since we don't have a gosh darn clue about what goes on between them or behind their closed doors. If one feels the need to save a woman, focus on saving one's own darn self. Moreover, _motivation_... the motivation here would not be a selfless act of service; it smacks of revenge and spite. My mom used to say, "Keep your own side of the street clean." which, just means "mind your own damn business." If someone needs and wants help, they ask for it from the people who will be there to stay and help her pick up the pieces. If you're going to drop a bomb on someone, you'd better be prepared for the fallout. Would you want to know that you forced her hand before she was ready? Would you want to know that she was so fragile that the news caused her to go off the deep end? Are you
sure you know what is best for a person you don't even know that you can play God in her life?

We didn't have the right to be in somebody else's relationship then, OR now.

This is my two cents.
Dee

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Registered: 08-01-2010
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 11:45am

For what it's worth, 2 years ago,

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