Friend making mistake

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Friend making mistake
Wed, 04-20-2005 - 8:13pm
The hard thing about all of this talk..is I believe now more than ever what a mistake it was for me to be in an EMA ever. And one of my closest friends is going through something that I worry over. She started an EMA with someone from her past, because her marriage was awful. She admits it's awful and wants out. Her husband knows that she wants a separation. That will happen soon enough but this EMA she's having is with someone who is married with kids and he's not leaving anytime too soon. But he has a history of this. He had an affair with someone from his job several years ago and that lasted four years. He got her pregnant and she has a child by this man. This man's wife does not know of this. Before her I think he has cheated with one night stands. But my friend adores this man, and I want so much to shake her and say "WHAT are you doing? He's done this so many times!" but she believes him when he tells her he has always loved her. She just keeps it going, and I have said some things to her but really in the end, she's a grown woman who will make her own choices. She will have to handle whatever happens when it happens and I will not make much difference (other than annoy her) if I keep harping about it..so I don't. But it sure is hard to sit by and see this happen..