Friends for 13 yrs. NC the only option?

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Friends for 13 yrs. NC the only option?
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Sun, 08-01-2010 - 12:54am

Hi... I'm new here.

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 7:32pm
I hope so. It is so hard for newbies to see things...I do wish her the best.
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Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 07-31-2010
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 10:11pm

Dear sillyme -


I

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Registered: 07-31-2010
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 4:08am

***This will be my last message until I hopefully

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 6:09am

Dear Enders,


PLEASE do not respond any further to this thread. Hopefully it will be removed by the end of the day, and if not, it will eventually disappear off the first page.


Thank you,

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 06-17-2010
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 6:10am

Wildflower -

I just wanted to copy and paste something you wrote here in one of your first posts:

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No one on EAS ever wants to intentionally hurt another poster. Sometimes we need tough love from the people who have been there. I was involved with my XAP for a long, long time and I tried just being friends a few times too. I felt just like you - when we would have a conversation that was just "friendly", it left me sad and wanting so much more. As you said above, his checking on you makes you miss him. I hope you can remain friends with him and let him go from your heart. I couldn't do it.

I don't want any response from this post, I just want to sincerely wish you the best in your healing.

Bodhi

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 6:23am
Sorry Iddy - we were posting at the same time and I didn't see yours :)
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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 1:51pm

Hello everyone,

Let me first say that this is a wonderful board and we at iVillage want to protect the community here. However, please remember that there is a person behind each post - with feelings that can be hurt. Just because someone is not in the same place that you are, doesn't mean they're not on the same eventual path. We want to welcome people looking for help, not turn them away.

Please remember to be respectful when posting to others. There is a time and a place for "tough love", but it's not meant for when feelings and emotions are at their most intense. I hope you can reflect back on when you were just beginning your journey, and remember how difficult a day or a moment was.

If you ever feel that a post does not belong, is inappropriate or attacking, please report that post to us (anyone can report a post!) and then ignore it. Posting a reply will only add fuel to the fire and disrupt the board even further.

If you have any questions, feel free to email me at relationshipscm@mail.ivillage.com, Attn: Tasha. I am always here to listen. :)

Thanks and we appreciate your cooperation.

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Thu, 08-05-2010 - 2:46pm
I've read through the posts on this thread and I don't see where anyone was harsh with the poster. Those of us who have ended an A know first hand how hard it is and when someone comes to the board who is not willing to end their A it hinders the progress of newbies. This board helped me tremendously seven years ago when I ended my A and it was tough love that got my head out of the clouds. I admire the strength of CL_Iddy and I would hate for her to be wrongfully accused. The poster seems to not be willing to put in the hard work to end her A and therefore she reported that the words were harsh. They weren't. We tend to be defensive when we don't really want to take the blinders off and end our A. I'm sorry that this one poster couldn't take the truth and therefore stirred up such a commotion.

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