friendship....tricky...

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Registered: 04-03-2003
friendship....tricky...
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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 10:34am

On one hand i am very glad we have maintained the friendship we have. So many R's go down in flames of anger and hurt. i am glad so far, we have avoided it. Our issue now is that mm has what a friend coined "favorite toy syndrome". He is done playing wtih his toy, doesn't plan on playing with it for a long time (if ever again) but he refuses to let any one ELSE play with his toy. Our friendship is good and important to me, but he has a very hard time dealing with my talk to other guys. i am NOT jumping into bed with anyone, simply getting out there and having a life, talking to people and getting out weekends. *He* wanted to be my friend, so *he* signed up for knowing i would talk to other people right? i just need someone to tell me i'm right today LOL.

TY in advance :)
jen

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Registered: 03-13-2004
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 11:32am

j,
i think u are doing the right thing, what right has MM have on you ??

max

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 11:37am
Jealousy is the hardest feeling to erase after a more intimate relationship. What you describe is just one of the many difficulties faced in attempting to change a relationship to "just friendship." Your desire to attract other men is perfectly normal and understandable. I'm sure he understands this on some level, but has a hard time letting go of the possessive feelings. If this doesn't improve... well, you know what you ought to do.
Alice
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 2:23pm

Jen

YOUR RIGHT, it's your life live it the way you want.

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