This is getting worse by the second

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This is getting worse by the second
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 2:21pm

Well, as I posted above, XMM's phone sent me a text message last evening saying that I shouldn't contact him anymore. Turns out, he was telling me the truth - his new OW sent that message. How do I know that??? Because she called me. Get this - the new OW called me to find out what our relationship was. And she admitted sending the text message, but thought she was sending it to his W (which makes no sense in context, but she don't sound that bright to begin with).

Can I tell you that my blood is boiling???????? I've done nothing to interfere with anything going on in this guy's life, and now I've got the new OW calling me. I called him and told him that if she contacted me again I would get a restraining order against her, and I suggest he do the same (if you remember, she showed up at his house one night when his DD5 was home to confront the BS).

I've got a raging headache, and I've gotten no work done all day. Love, Mo.

mo 7-18-10

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 2:52pm
Wow, how did she find out about you? Did she just start going through his cell and start texting people? She does sound like a psycho! How frustrating to be out of the situation and it yet keeps following you around.
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 2:54pm

Oh yeah, and DH and I have to go to a fundraiser in NYC tonight.

Well, Free, if you're out there...when the pain gets great enough, we'll do something to end it, right? The time is now...Love, Mo.

mo 7-18-10

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 2:56pm
Yes, she fully admitted that she was going thru his cell phone and saw a text message to my phone number. Now the question is, if he's rebuilding his marriage, what the heck was she doing with his cell phone at 11:30 p.m. last night???? You guessed it. When I called him to yell and holler and everything else, he told me that he spent last night with her. So this is what happens when you let your little head do the thinking for the big one, huh????? Love, really angry Mo.

mo 7-18-10

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 3:00pm
Hopefully all this is the straw that broke the camel's back. To be honest I would be worried to ever have sex with him again because it sounds like he just picked up the first woman that came along and with her being a few crayons short of a full box, you never know if she has some disease or something. I was reading posts earlier about people hoping something drastic happened to cause them to want to end the a, well, I guess you have yours! Good luck! Have fun in NYC tonight.........
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 3:26pm

This should really get you moving with NC, huh?

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 3:40pm

I think it's funny that someone would tell you to get a restraining order from your exMM... sure he's hurting you but how quickly people forget the draw we feel to our exMMs! Craziness!!

I agree you need to let exMM know that this new AP better not contact you again! She sounds CRAZY and you do NOT need to get all mixed up in that! You and exMM kept your A under wraps and while it's not healthy it didn't have to directly hurt BS... if this new AP is so crazy that she'll go and mess with BS and exMM's kids... you don't need to have her dragging you into it all! You know all this... I'm just putting it in black and white for you to see.

And then I think you need to tell exMM to NOT contact you about his crazy life again. You don't care to hear about this new AP or the destruction his getting involved with her is causing. You DO have a good head on your shoulders and YOU CHOSE to not be involved in white trash situations like that.

That's my thoughts anyway!

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 7:14pm

Mo

I don't know who said it but I agree with them get a restraining order against XMM and against the new OW, put this to bed once and for all or put it in court and let a judge deal with them both.

Enough B/S you have to call them on it once and for all or it's just going to continue or even get worst.

Have you let your husband know what is going on....HE HAS THE RIGHT in my opinion sense you guys are rebuilding.

Free

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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 9:14am

Well, DH and I had a fabulous time at the fundraiser last night, which helped me forget the entire mess and put things in perspective. It was for Save The Children and there were some celebs there, good food, etc. It was great.

I told DH everything and he's been on the receiving end of my tongue-lashing once or twice and trust me, no one wants to be there. I am indeed a boundary-less person and typically let everyone else call the shots for me, but when I get good and tired of it, well, I blow a gasket which is what I did yesterday. Don't worry, though, I'm not even thinking of calling XMM and apologizing for calling him a disease-carrying piece of trash. (yeah, I really said that.)

I like the idea of an RO and I'm going to look into that this morning because I don't have to change my phone number right now. I will definitely do that when I'm back living in my house, but it might create as much, if not more drama, in my life if I started missing the majority of my calls. The new OW sounds absolutely freakin' whacko, although the XMM says she's simply a bit "obsessed with him." Leave it to pond scum like this to make it seem like a compliment to him that this crazy lady is running around causing so much drama in his life - because she loves him so much. Give me a freakin' break.

So yes, to everyone's point, if you're looking for the perfect "ending," of an A I guess I got that. Not too difficult to walk away from this, is it now? And to whoever said it, yes, I was thinking yesterday that I probably got an eensy teensy little taste of what it might feel like to be a BS and it s#cked.

And now, I would officially like to put a bullet in this situation. Thank you all for listening and tolerating the insanity. Love, Mo.

mo 7-18-10