A glimpse of the future...

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Registered: 03-27-2003
A glimpse of the future...
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Mon, 01-03-2005 - 8:49am

Just remembering something that was said at the New Years party I was at...

I was talking about this party from last year with a few people and a story came up where a girl I know had kind of been flirting with another married fellow I know. He was a real gentleman about it and it ended up being just a funny moment. XOM was standing there and basically said "I would have gone for it". At that moment I really got the creeps thinking that I'm probably not as special as I had thought I was and that he's probably a total womanizer. Had I ended up with this guy I could never have really trusted him. He travels alot and works long hours, has lots of money and probably many opportunities - I'm not sure what he would do and what he wouldn't, but I would have always wondered.

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Registered: 07-18-2004
Mon, 01-03-2005 - 9:00am
The minute he (XMM/XOM) got into bed with us, he proved he could not be trusted. Regardless of all of the other good qualities AND bad qualities, do we really want to be with someone we cannot trust?? Thanks for the morning boost, along with my coffee. :-)
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Registered: 11-01-2004
Mon, 01-03-2005 - 10:47am

You stated something I've felt for a very long time. I think he will go on to have another A down the line. He seem to crave female companionship, not necessary sexual, but an ego-driven need to know he can still get an attractive womans attention.

He knows I don't trust him, and trust was the unlying cause for me to finally let go. With my H, I have total trust in him and therefore, I have peace of mind. My suspicions were driving me crazy. I wanted to stop worrying what he was doing or who he may be flirting with. He said the demise of the R was my fault, because I can't find a way to trust him...and I say it was HIS fault because he's proven time and time again, he NEEDS to be around women and that one woman would never be enough for him.

So I know what you mean,..I had felt "special" at one time, but over the past year or so, saw and heard things that led me to feel that perhaps I was just the unfortunate one that fell hard for him, and was willing to see him on the side.

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Mon, 01-03-2005 - 12:03pm
Sounds like a reality check that would help a lot of women.