Go back to lurking, pls. GRRRRR!

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Go back to lurking, pls. GRRRRR!
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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 12:52pm

Alrighty, Girls.
I'm off my meds, so brace up.

This is an ENDING board. Not an I'm-thinking-about-ending board.
You've been lurking for, um, _how_ long??? I've said this over and over....THERE IS NOTHING NEW UNDER THE SUN! What the heck are you doing while lurking; are you actually _reading_ the posts? Or are you just staring blankly at the gd monitor??? Go back one year, two years, three years.... over and over, the same stories, the same advice. Ok, so we all do it... we all get on this board and for the most part our first post is "how do I end this" cry, whine, confusion and despair abound! BUT, the second, third, fourth posts are NOT still "how do I end this?" and they are not supposed to be "I slipped, slipped, fell, slipped, and went back to the A." woe is me, why do I keep doing this..... and so on and so forth.

I am getting a little, ok, A LOT, irritated that lately I cannot come to my support board for uplifting and encouraging post. If y'all are not going to get on the stick and begin to get your shiz together, then go back to MAS or wherever. You girls KNOW what you have to do to be a part of this board, to begin to heal, to get your lives back on track --- SO DO IT! or, kindly, stop wasting everyone's time. This board has all the tools and support a person needs to end their A, but if this board is NOT helping you for some reason, why be on it?

I know I'm supposed to just ignore the posts that don't resonate with me -- I know I'm supposed to offer only loving encouragement --- Well, I'm stuck! I find only 1 out of 10 posts that resonate with me, and the only loving encouragement I can muster is to KICK SOME BUTT. If I had the patience of an angel on valium, like Iddy and the Vets, I'd probably keep my mouth shut. But, I've been here only four months and I've NEVER been good at filtering. I'm the loudmouth of the group; sorry if it offends, but I'm going to stand behind this rant because I think it's worth saying and my motivation is coming from the right place: I want healing for everyone on this board - I want the new-enders to get what they need to move forward.

sigh. I'm done.
Dee

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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 6:17pm

Thank you Iddy. You're the best. Whiners or not, everyone should be welcomed here. This is SUPPORT board, for Pete's sake.

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 8:32pm

Thanks everyone....interesting conversation....I am new here and posted a few times...
I have been LC for 11 days because I work with my XAP. I have to say that I have drawn my strength from ALL the posts here...I have been lurking and reading ALLOT!!! It's so nice to hear all the encouragement, and support and advice.... but it is also necessary to hear all the feelings of people who are struggling. It makes me feel like I am not alone and it makes me feel almost normal. Seriously before I found this board, I thought I was crazy!!! I couldn't believe that anyone else in the world could possibly feel the way I did. I am confident that the people who are posting and lurking on this board are getting exactly what they need to hear....and for the vets....thanks for continuing your support!!!

:) Staying strong because of all of you!

Addict in Recovery
Addict in Recovery
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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 8:45pm

Iddy, you re absolutely the best.

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 9:48pm
I just want to reiterate that I never said that this board didn't and shouldn't support all enders, whining or not.
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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 10:28pm

Dee,


I couldn't agree with you more! Yes, there is patience in ending an affair and we are here to comfort and offer support, but there comes a time when we have to make a decision and stick with it.

NC since Dec. 9th 2009

No Contact = No N

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Wed, 03-17-2010 - 4:47am
Thank you, Iddy, for your patience and understanding.
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Wed, 03-17-2010 - 6:39am

(((Buddy))


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You see, this is what I don't want to have happen. Right now is when you need us the most. I am sorry you felt that some people were disgusted with you and this is not how people needing help should feel. I am so sorry this happened but please continue reading here and do not let a few naysayers turn you away. The majority of us understand the pain you are in and I, for one, will always be in your court. I hope you will post in again soon when you are feeling a little stronger.


Love and hugs,

   ~Iddy~ 


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Wed, 03-17-2010 - 7:05am

thank you, iddy.

lillie

silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...
silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...
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Wed, 03-17-2010 - 8:12am
(((BUDDY)))
I am in your court too along with Iddy. Please do not be discouraged. You are hurting and in deep emotional pain and every single ladies who come to this board have been there or are going through the process. Despite differing views - one thing you can have confident in is that every single ladies here have one thing in common - and that is to help each other come out on the other side of this terrible A. Please continue to reach out to your EAS sisters. You need us and believe it or not, you have also helped a lot of ladies with your story. So hang in there buddy - you will get through this and we will help you and we WANT to help you. (((HUGS)))
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Wed, 03-17-2010 - 8:21am

thank you iddy, gullible88 and lilli,


i would never stop reading.