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Sat, 05-17-2003 - 4:37pm
opinion as well. I am co-cl over at Parent Soup's Parents of Preteens board. There was an issue brought up that I thought you all would be familiar with. No, not just as parents but as ex-children, as well!!

From cl-jlsjssmom

"What do you think is a good age for the puberty presentation at school? There was a letter to the editor in today's local paper about a woman who was outraged because he 4th grade son had been exposed to this type of presentation. She claimed that these 9- and 10-yo children that still played with toys and wanted their mommies were much to young to hear about pubic hair and erections! She thought that beginning sex ed should be in jr. high or high school!!

While I definitely think the sex talk should begin at home and be ongoing from the time kids are little I see no problem with a tastefully done program at school. Both of my boys had it at the beginning of 5th grade, boys in one room learning 'All About Matthew', girls in another learning 'All About Mary' with same-sex parents invited - dh went each time. I think that age is about right, at least for boys. Some of the moms of girls said by then (the girls being 10 or 11) it's almost a bit late. I don't think they need an in-depth sex ed course at school at this age but the puberty thing and basics of sperm and egg I see no problem with."

Okay, I know that to some 9-yo may seem pretty young, but, I think they need to know what's happening with their bodies. Girls are starting menses much earlier than you and I did. I think I was 12. And, boys need to know that those 'wet' feelings (nocturnal emissions) they have are a normal part of developing! Carl had Mom & Dad to talk to him, but many of his classmates, girls & boys, parents' couldn't or wouldn't talk with their kids.

What age did you learn about puberty? What age did your children? If your children aren't near that age yet, when would you talk to them? Did you learn at school, from friends, or from your family?

~Chris~

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Sat, 05-17-2003 - 6:12pm
Well, I am pretty liberal in this way... I believe that kids should learn about their bodies from a young age. Not more information than they need or is age-appropriate, especially for very young kids... but we can NOT assume all parents teach their children enough or accurate information...

As they get to middle school (4th grade and up these days), girls believe wrong information and are odten told lies about when you can and can't get pregnant, kids don't know about birth control and disease prevention... I have seen many articles about kids in 6th, 7th, 8th grade having oral sex because they don't think it's "sex" and they don't know you can catch STDs and AIDS from that...

I believe it takes a community to raise a child... My kids learned in 5th grade at school, but already knew most of it at home anyway... I worry about the kids of that woman who didn't want her 10 year old to learn about sex. Does she want the other 10 year olds to teach him/her? Because they WILL. And I guarantee the information will NOT be what she would want her child to hear...

JMHO

Glinda

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Sun, 05-18-2003 - 12:55pm
How about "It takes a village to raise a child"? iVillage, that is!! LOL

Thanks for giving your opinion, Glinda. I also agree that children should learn at home at an early age. I once asked Carl about 'the talk' such as when did we need to have it. He told me that we didn't need to because it was something that had been discussed openly all the time rather than waiting for him to be 10 or 11 or whatever! He said there never had been one discussion but a lifetime of discussions. LOL

He told me that he talked some of his friends at school. ROFL At least they got accurate information on the playground!! He had been clearing up rumors they'd heard from others. LOL

~Chris~