Got pass my urge to contact

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Registered: 04-08-2011
Got pass my urge to contact
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Sun, 05-01-2011 - 10:41pm

Last week I was having a good week and thought I was holding everything inside.

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Registered: 04-01-2011
Mon, 05-02-2011 - 7:44am
Thanks for this Wantosmile - I am still remindingyself about them not being of any worth to my life and thinking if all the times I was asking for his attention. Remembering this stops the urge to contact. I am working towards being the woman I was long before the affair - to get more centred and content with being me so that someone like xAP would never have even registered on my radar! We can do this. Well done for working it through - it us so tiring tho so make sure you take some 'you' time to recharge.

yellowone. Xxx

"Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." ~Henry David Thoreau~

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Registered: 12-15-2010
Mon, 05-02-2011 - 8:59am

Isn't it such a buzz when we realise we actually DO hold the power when it comes to our own happiness? Each day of NC I do a little dance. I am so darn proud of myself, and I'm super glad you got past it too :smileyvery-happy:

Well done! Fantastic stuff.

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Registered: 04-08-2011
Mon, 05-02-2011 - 4:46pm

Thank you.

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Registered: 04-01-2011
Mon, 05-02-2011 - 4:52pm
I a m today having a day like yours Wantosmile - grr am struggling with the 'let it go' part. I can reason the not contacting and have some insight into the why's and don't want to go back in. BUT just can't seem to let go. Am still LC but feel stuck.

Am glad you are holding on. Xxx

"Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." ~Henry David Thoreau~

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Registered: 04-08-2011
Mon, 05-02-2011 - 5:35pm

Yellow, I wish I could help you with the "letting go" part, but

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Mon, 05-02-2011 - 6:13pm

Kudos to you!


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Registered: 04-12-2011
Tue, 05-03-2011 - 4:50pm
I so understand thes feelings. I was having a really hard time this afternoon thinking about exAP. I can totally intellectualize the whole concept of NC and I am totally committed to that as I know an A is toxic and not good for anyone, however, I had real feelings for my ex. I worried about him, and hoped for best for him it's just very hard to let go. I don't despise him like it seems some do on this board. I take full and total responsibility for my part as he has done as well. I just need to find a way to fully move on. I guess I am an example of just how hard this process is even after 5 mos. NC.
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Registered: 04-08-2011
Tue, 05-03-2011 - 7:10pm

ladybug, I know what you mean, letting go is hard.

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Registered: 04-12-2011
Tue, 05-03-2011 - 8:25pm
That's right it is a process and painful as it is we have to stick to NC and maintaining our integrity and returning to faithfulness. This has been one of the most painful experiences of my life. Good luck to you and letting go. I guess as the saying goes "this too shall pass" ugh.
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Registered: 04-01-2011
Wed, 05-04-2011 - 4:54am
Sounds like we three are at same point. I also need to work on the forgiving me part too. Not sure how to do that. ((hugs)) xxx

"Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." ~Henry David Thoreau~

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