Got a question

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Got a question
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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 5:59pm
ALright, I have a question.

I have been married for ten years. I married at 19. I really do feel like my husband loves me. I have three children ages 9,7, and 4. My children are indeed my upmost priority. My husband is not affectionate, most times he is not even satisfying to talk to. I recieve no feedback when i talk to him. I was just being silly a few days ago and asked him to dance to a song that came on and he told me no. This really hurt me. I have been conversing with a neihbor for about 2 weeks now. He is a single dad. He gets his son on the weekends. I went to the park with him our kids played. Meanwhile, I realized how freely I could talk to him and how he listened. I felt great until my husband came home and I felt like I had just gave my heart away. We have talked everyday since then. I have been suffering depression off and on for 3 years. The worst hit this past October. I would not want my husband to realize that I have been spending alot of time talking to this man, however I feel its like an additction. I know that this is leading to something and I am very frighted to where. He hugged me the other day and I melted. Thats not to say that if my husband came home and hugged me and told me how beautiful I was that I wouldn't melt either. I don't want to hurt either person here. Any advise??
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Registered: 02-04-2004
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 6:24pm
STOP !! While you still can. I know how good it feels to be with this man - to be understood and made to feel special again!!! I promise ! But you need to tell your husband how scared you are that your love is slipping away...before you make a mistake that will cause you more pain than you can imagine. I wish more than anything that I could go back to where you are and stop it before I started.

Sorry to be so abrupt but I've got to run...

GOOD LUCK !!

One day at a time - NC!