Great T session

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Registered: 12-01-2010
Great T session
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Wed, 01-26-2011 - 12:36pm

Hello Lovelies

For a change, I really like my new T. He is very insightful, open, honest (to keep me accountable) and truly helpful. He also seems to be a bit of a cheerleader -- which is refreshing. In all my years of other counseling professionals who often times honed in on the negative, this is dfferent.

Love, Sunshine Dedicated to living my new life with integrity, truth and positive thoughts! I am worthy of true love and definitely worth the wait!
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 1:46pm

Glad to hear you had such a good T session and you're feeling comfortable with him! That's always a good thing, and from what I gather can take a few tries before a good T is found.

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'It may be that when we no longer know what to do,
We have come to our real work,
And that when we no longer know which way to go,
We have begun our real journey'
- Wendell Berry

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Registered: 08-25-2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 2:03pm
I am so glad for you that the session and new T went well- it gives me hope as I now have to find an interim (or replacement) for mine. You mentioned having a more balanced view because you take way too much of the blame -
Have you read week 3 homework down in HL? It's a classic symptom of co-dependency. While I agree your xAP had the bigger part in walking away because he was M - I think it is important to maintain the focus on not who is to blame - but that the fact that you DID walk away. The codependent part tho should be considered too....
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 4:13pm

Sunshine,

Thanks for sharing your therapy revelations. I enjoyed reading where youre at as well as being inspired to get back to MY COUNSELOR! Dr. Bob! :) I ran into a financial snag and its prevented me - but I really MISS having that f2f sounding board and encourager - who gives me some feedback about how well Im doing. :) Yes! A cheerleader! and he was sooo cool in his shorts & birkenstocks hahahah! :)

I want to reiterate what Lolly said (and wow! somebody is reading the healing homework?!??!) AWESOME!!! I always feel like such a dork talking to myself...but havent quit! Ohh i digress...anyway....

Remember my hissy fit last week about him contacting me...and why why why wont he leave me alone and what the hells wrong with him for NOT just going away...then Dee saying I need to NOT focus on him...and I argued back :) but...I havent focused enough on him?

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 12-01-2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 9:15pm

Thanks Michelle, Lolly, et al....I appreciate it. I do hear ya on the coda stuff. I'm cognizant of coda issues seeing as I had an alcoholic for a husband. I'm careful about that. But honestly, I prob didn't explain it right about the talk with T. The T is who brought up AP's role in this, not me. Honestly I no longer give a rip about AP or what he is doing, thinking or how much or how little he blames himeself. I think my therapist may have said something because he is trying to point out how in generaI take on too much blame

Love, Sunshine Dedicated to living my new life with integrity, truth and positive thoughts! I am worthy of true love and definitely worth the wait!
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Registered: 07-21-2009
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 10:18pm

Sunshine-