Greedy cake-eaters

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Registered: 03-08-2009
Greedy cake-eaters
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Fri, 11-12-2010 - 6:10pm

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2010
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 6:22pm

Greedy: Excessively desirous of acquiring or possessing, especially wishing to possess more than what one needs or deserves.

We were all greedy - single or married.

We all wanted something that belonged to someone/somewhere else.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2010
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 6:25pm

I really appreciate that you are asking this question about your own motives and behavior. I'm in a phase of shame over my behavior right now so I can identify with the self-judgment and 'don't cast a stone because...' POV. There is no 'excuse' for an A but the reality is they happen. It happened to me. Did I think I never would be in an A? I guess I never would have thought I'd be interested or feel a need for one. As a professional and MW my plate is full...what could I want. But you bring up the 'something is missing' part of the problem and...so it goes. I guess. I'm still not sure WTF happened but for now I'm feeling more at ease here in EAS than MAS.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2010
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 7:20pm

Alice...there is nothing at all wrong with wanting to know why when it comes to your own actions.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2010
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 7:48pm

Hi Alice

I think the WTH happened to us is kind of simple:

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2004
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 8:17pm
Hi Alice,

I was greedy when I was married and engaging in the affair and still greedy when I left my marriage and continued on in the affair. For me it was about my selfish needs at the cost of many people in my life. It has taken me a very long time to understand that others cannot fill my needs, if I want to be made felt special that this feeling comes from the unexpected gestures and comments from people who encounter me and if it happens it's because my actions are coming from a good place and I am not behaving greedily and seeking attention. Your questions of why's are good and the progress you make with asking the questions in regards to you and less about xap will be even greater progress. It takes alot of time especially when our focus isn't on the real "us" I know it's worth it though and I know you do too because your questions are coming to the surface in a way that is about the real Alice and why she functioned in ways that weren't acceptable just like i am asking those questions of the real Jen and why she sought the road to destruction so easily :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2006
Sat, 11-13-2010 - 7:58am

As a not-very-good Catholic I struggle with breaking vows.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
Sat, 11-13-2010 - 11:07am

Alice,

Good dig.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Sat, 11-13-2010 - 4:06pm

Yep - cake eater. Still wiping the chocolate off my face :)

Bodhi

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
Sat, 11-13-2010 - 4:38pm

Sad thing is, Bodhi, that's not chocolate.

bwahahahahha!

xo
Dee

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Sat, 11-13-2010 - 4:50pm

aaaaahhhhhhh! I walked straight into that one!!!

:)

Bodhi

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