happy ending?

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Registered: 10-13-2010
happy ending?
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Thu, 12-09-2010 - 2:45pm

Hi...it is Willow.

I am in shock today.

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 2:55pm

Willow- This is a board that offers support for ending an A and moving on from that.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2008
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 2:57pm

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 3:26pm

His W is back to doing stupid things.... Hmmmm. She just had his baby and he left her..

We will see you back on this board within six months and we will welcome you with open arms. This guy doesn't seem like too good of a catch, but you will see.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 3:29pm

Hi Willow,

I have to agree with the other two posters. If you are looking for strength NOT to let this guy back in, then we are here for you. Otherwise "After the Affair Support Board" is the one you need to be on now. I also agree that he is not D yet, so I wouldn't be putting all of my eggs in one basket.....just yet.

I have read on another very popular board for the SOW how this separation stuff can go on for years and then they still reconcile. I'd be very careful about

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 12-01-2010
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 4:08pm
Iddy that last line you said "being out in the real world with whom someone we once played in the mud" being a whole other ball of wax is very interesting indeed. This scenario she is in could make us all stop and think about what we would do or want if the AP suddenly appeared at our door saying he's free. hmmm.
Love, Sunshine Dedicated to living my new life with integrity, truth and positive thoughts! I am worthy of true love and definitely worth the wait!
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Registered: 12-01-2010
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 4:17pm

Willow,

Your story and the what others have said really gives me food for thought. The romantic in me hopes that everyone is wrong and it will work out for you. But then I have a realist side too....and I'm just sayin, be VERY cautious. As a person who has been through separation and divorce, the process of separation and divorce is sometimes overwhelming and heartwrenching and confusing and sad and scary and so many other things I haven't mentioned even when it is certain the people should not be together. He will go through a ton of emotions throughout the process and will have to work on things emotionally for him to be good for you.

My advice to you is to WAIT - wait until he is divorced for awhile (like a good 6 mos) and then find out if he is even close to being ready emotionally to see you as your boyfriend.

This will be the true test. Time will give you that answer. If it's real and he truly loves you and you him, in the end it will work out and you will be together.

Love, Sunshine Dedicated to living my new life with integrity, truth and positive thoughts! I am worthy of true love and definitely worth the wait!
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 4:56pm

Very sound advice, Sunshine


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2010
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 5:13pm

WIllow I am VERY worried for you when I hear you say that HE "has custody" of his 6 week old daughter?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2010
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 5:19pm

O.M.G.

Seriously?

I'm just calling out BS - because that is what this is.

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Registered: 10-13-2010
Sun, 12-12-2010 - 11:29am

First I want to address some of the questions.

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