Happy Monday Bodhi!

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Happy Monday Bodhi!
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Mon, 07-26-2010 - 10:02am
When I was ending my A many years ago, another poster sent me a msg every now and then to encourage me. It helped me a lot. I wanted to do the same thing for you because I know it's hard. So happy Monday and congratulations for taking your dignity and respect back. You can do it.
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 10:22am

(((((Why)))))

You made my morning! :)

I'm starting week 5 today and the sun is shining.

Thank you SO much.

Bodhi

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 10:26am
Five weeks, wooo hoo!!! You rock girl.
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Registered: 04-15-2010
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 10:33am

Flap Flap --- tweener wings will soon be your!


Have an amazing Monday Bodhi.


Cheers,


LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 4:07pm

I've been thinking a lot today about dignity and self respect because of Why's post this morning.

Over the weekend, I posted that felt sorry for myself because my basement flooded and I had to deal with it (like everything) alone. But yesterday my kids really pitched in and together we got everything out and in the back yard. We made piles of "throw away" and "needs to be cleaned". Today I made calls for the boiler and the hot water heater. I'm going to stop by the laundromat to see what the going rate is for laundry until I get a new washer and dryer. Tonight I'm headed back down into the mess with my rubber gloves, bleach and hose to get everything clean again.

None of this is new. I've been single for 6 of the 7.5 years of my A. I've taken care of many things.

What IS different, and I didn't realize it until Why's post (thank you again!), is the dignity and self respect I feel right now. There isn't the resentment that I used to feel - XAP not being there for me when I really need him, then letting him come over and touch me. No more. You want sex with me, you gotta be available to scrub my basement (snap).

My hope for all of us is that the feeling of dignity and self respect to always outweigh the sadness. It really is worth it.

:)
Bodhi