Happy Weekend.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Happy Weekend.
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Fri, 05-16-2003 - 10:11am
I just wanted to wish you all a happy weekend. I hope you are all going to do something that is fun and in order to take care of yourself. It can be something as simple as some alone time to totally relax, to going out and enjoying the Springtime.

For anyone who is feeling weak, take a moment to ask yourself ~ Why do I feel weak and is there someone in my life who makes me feel that way? So many ladies here post about my strength and in truth, I was every bit as weak as each of you when I let myself get involved in an affair. The real difference is what led up to it happening.

For those who are married, it is really important to understand that you and your DH should be on equal ground. If God is the head of your marriage, then no one else needs to be in control. Sure a man thinks he is in the marriage to be the fix all, but there are going to be times when he simply cannot fix a problem. Wives believe they are to be the nurturer to both the H and children and that is true, but it doesn't mean we let go of who we are in the process and it certainly doesn't make us any less important. Yes, wives should submit to their husbands, but husbands are to love their wives like Christ loved the church. So it is an EQUAL playing field for the lack of a better term.

Blue, this is for you specifically. If you or your child gets sick with a cold, you go to the doctor. When you find you are in an unhealthy (sick) marriage relationship, you seek a doctor's help for that too. Now before you get angry with me, let me say this. If your marriage was okay, you never would've needed to seek comfort from another man. Now the fact that your DH doesn't know about the affair makes it your responsibility to get help for yourself and your marriage because I'm sure your DH doesn't understand why you are depressed. I hope this made some sense to you because to be honest, I don't know what more to suggest to you. What you need to understand is that your DH is not going to know how to fix this and that he is part of the problem.

To SB, again congratulations on making CL. I know you will put your whole heart into it.

Hugs all around...keep smiling!

GT

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Fri, 05-16-2003 - 12:05pm
Thanks for your post, GT, and as to the part about marriage being an equal partnership,(As Mel jumps up from her chair,) I say, "AMEN, SISTA'"!! (hee hee)!! I am in a silly mood again, look out! =D Hope you take your own advice and do something good for yourself, you deserve it! We all deserve it! (CALGONNNNN, TAKE ME AWAYYYYYYYY!!!) ;) (((hugs)))

~Mel