has anyone had the desire to tell it all

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Registered: 05-02-2005
has anyone had the desire to tell it all
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Wed, 06-08-2005 - 11:34am

Been 5 long weeks, but I will make it! Losing my son is so much harder than saying Good bye to a 4 and a half year affair, full of lies, deception and mistrust.

But I know he has made me out to be the pursuror to save his sorry ass, told lies and stories about me to his W, maybe even his kids.

I have this great need to write to the W and show her all the emails, the pictures, the cards that he pursused me,and when I wanted out he would not let me go! Somehow I feel that I need to come clean,have a need to make people see him for his true colours, I guess I am feeling dirty about all of this.

what do you think, or is this just a pssing phase, and YES I know vengence is best served cold, but am not vengenful.

Kyme

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:02pm

no I've never wanted to do that! :( while the inital feeling of getting it out and presenting it to the W - think about the lasting effects! to you and to that family! :( Ugh... makes me sad to think people even consider doing this! :( Being the OW to a MM I never wanted to hurt his family - no matter how much the pange of never being his hurt me!

Sorry I think that is one of the most selfish things a person could do at the end of an A.

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Registered: 04-24-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 1:02pm

Hi kymemum,

There is a very long thread on the All Sides board on this very topic:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/listsf.asp?webtag=iv-ivallsides&nav=start

It's called "Telling the BS about the affair." You only have to read the first 40 or so posts to get a flavor for the whole debate.

Enjoy, WIP

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Wed, 06-08-2005 - 1:27pm

Read a whole bunch of those posts.

Funny stories all the same, out come all the same, I should have seen this coming, but was blinded by what I thought was love.

As for staying for th kids, what a complete cop-out, but my opion.

The truth is still the truth and the truth hurts, but by coming clean, it makes one soul feel better, does not erase the pain the hurt, but coming clean always the right way out.

Kyme