Has this happened to anyone?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Has this happened to anyone?
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Tue, 06-22-2004 - 2:14pm
I woke up this morning in a cold sweat.....or should I say my body was on fire. I had just woken up from a very erotic dream about and ex-mm. It seemed so, so, so real. It was like I could feel ex-MM (without being to graphic). Parts of my body were tingling. It was like he was there. I could actually feel him on me.

That image, and those feelings have been with me all day. I can't help but to think about him. I'm so curious about what is going on in his life. I wonder if he has moved back home with his W. I knew it wouldn't take much for him to hightail it back home. Sine we have not been talking and he sees that I'm serious about not being in a relationship with a MM. I wonder did he give up and go back home. Does anyone if you can find out if a divorce is final? Could I just go to the county records building? Can I tell if he has filed yet? Any leads would be helpful.

SL

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 4:11pm
Is your ex-MM warlock or something?? LOL I don't think I ever had any experience like that in my life. :)

Sorry can't be of much help.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 2:19pm
I read about this in a Dear Abby column, some woman had married some guy and after going through hell and eventually divorcing him, she found out that she had been this guy's 10th wife! She had no idea. So Abby suggested in the future to do a background check, that she just call the county courthouse and inquire about past marriages/divorce, bankruptcy/credit records etc. Well I guess you can't the county about credit reports, but I think property ownership is public knowledge. Oh well. I don't know if this applies to all states or if only some states make this public knowledge. Just look it up in you local phone book.

Oh, and I read the other response about your exMM sounding like a Warlock. I thought that was funny. Your dream post was pretty deep. Just so you don't feel "alone" I did happen to have a similar experience, except I was sort of awake. I was taking a break from the office and went and lied down on a bench outside in the sun. It was a very warm pleasant day, I closed my eyes for a few minutes and all of a sudden it was as if I had felt xMM lying on top of me naked (he was I wasn't). I had my hands going up and down his back slowly and it was as if I could feel his weight on top of me and I could feel his skin with my hands. It was bizarre. I didn't feel like I was sleeping, if I was it was only for 10 minutes. When I opened my eyes my arms were behind my head as they were before I had closed my eyes.

Hate to say it but it's just a dream. Doesn't necessarily mean anything other than perhaps you were thinking of him and missing him. Hang in there and stay strong. You're doing good so far. Take care

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 3:10pm
I've had that happen a couple of times. But what's been happening to me recently is that I'll start daydreaming about him coming back to me and be so into it, that for a few minutes I'll actually be happy as if it's really happening. Too weird. I guess these are just some things that we'll have to go through until eventually we don't think about them anymore.
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Registered: 10-25-2003
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 11:06am
Yes, I've had all sorts of strange dreams. Getting XMM out of my system has been hard. I would almost compare it to kicking a drug habit. Just like the Britney Spears song I would call his memory TOXIC. Even though I find the thought of "Knowing" things about XMM alluring, I also know it is just fanning the flames of my burning desire for him. SO if you don't Feed the fire it will eventually die.

The dreams will pass, the excitement will fade and you will meet a single sexy man, that can give you the full measure of what you deserve in a dedicated realationship.

KATJA

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 8:40pm
>>>>>>>>>>>>>The dreams will pass, the excitement will fade and you will meet a single sexy man, that can give you the full measure of what you deserve in a dedicated realationship. <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

When does that happen? I am single XOW..A ended 5 weeks ago..feel like crap still. I have no interest in meeting another man...and the thought of intimacy w/ another man turns my stomach.

Hope

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Registered: 04-29-2004
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 2:42pm
I'm in the same boat you are hope...right now i have no desire to even meet another man after all that has happened, let alone even talk with one. Maybe in 10 years i'll feel differently....(sigh)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 5:18pm
Well, I do have a desire to meet some one single. I want to start dating. I want to put this A behind me. I feel like I can't totally do that, until I actually, physically, and mentally move on.

I don't want to keep thinking about MM......he's made his choice, he's till married. There is no future in that for me. I'm single, and hope to marry again someday, and the only way that can happen is for me to date again.

I'm single and looking.......

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Registered: 10-25-2003
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 5:40pm
Yes you have to heal from one thing until you can move on to the next but, I'm just saying that time heals and in time you can find someone deserving of your love and attention. Someone who can make you number one in their lives and not their dirty little secrect. Oh I really enjoyed the book "why men marry some women and not others."

But I'm not at all implying that a woman needs a man in her life to be complete. On the other hand you should be complete allready before you get married. Complete as in happy with yourself. At least most of the time.