Has your xAP ever had another A?
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Has your xAP ever had another A?
| Thu, 01-07-2010 - 12:37pm |
I am curious if anyone knows whether their xAP has ever had another A, either prior to yours or after? What about yourself?
Me - i did have a brief A (lasted about 6 mts) a few years ago. I ended the A when i moved in with my H (then BF) and got engaged.
xAP - had one brief A (2-3 mts), which he ended once his then AP left her H and wanted him to begin a RLR with her.
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My xAP had a year long A with a woman, which ended only a few months before we met. He was stalked by her the entire time we were together. He had been married to his W for 5 years when he began that A, but together with his W for about 17 years, in total.
He also had two long term A's while he was dating his W. He had two women with whom he would hook up with when his band visited their towns.
And he confessed to me at the end of our A that he'd "made out" with two women while he was on the road during our A.
I suspect he's "made out" with a lot more than that, before, during and probably after me, too.
It's really amazing that I was able to suppress my gag reflex when he came forward, bit by bit, with his history. The FOG, the FOG... man, it's so damn thick!
Edited 2/25/2010 10:40 am ET by jilly1983
Me... no.
Xap is single and is an admitted sex addict.
I know of only one before me, but I have suspicions there were others way before that. Even though he told me I was the only woman he's ever been with other than his
~Iddy~
It just occurred to me that my XAP's other A is partly to blame for luring me into an A with him!
I am not sure if my xAP ever did have another affair or not. He told me I was the only one he had ever been with besides his wife, but IMHO, I am sure he lied to me about that
my exap explained to me that he cheated on his wife 3 months into his marriage...that he has felt pressured to marry her and has always cheated on her, this was at the end of course when he divulged this information.
there were many before me...but he told me i was different, there were just a$$, He was "in love" with me. I was different and special and he wanted to have kids with me.
he has had several relationships with many women, mostly ones he just saw occasionally, others he saw regularly and was in full blown relationships. so they thought, like me.
But for me he was gonna change, he was gonna be diffrerent....Blah Blah Blah......
At D day. wife told me she knew of many, and that she had known of others and that he had brought her home std's....scary I know, and scary he was. He supposedly wanted me pregnant so bad....
he claimed to be very careful with other women before me....keep in mind, this he told me before i knew he was married.......so i had no reason then not to trust him, not that i could clearly see anyway,
he was that good....lied so naturally, looked me dead in the eye, would not even flinch.....scary
he did it so well and repeatedly, and I bought it all.
He is a serial cheater.....always will be, most of these men are..
Do we ever really know the true answer?
My xAP told me no, he had not. He said this to me early in our affair. About a year into the relationship, we spent
Thanks all for sharing. I am hoping we will get some more stories from other EAS-ers. I thought this would be a good idea..to just put it all out there..to see it for what it is.
Bandk - you're very right, we don't know it for sure. But, it's interesting to see how the xAP's
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Well I will just chime on in on this one.
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