Hate to be a pest but need your votes??
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| Tue, 10-19-2004 - 4:19pm |
So let's go back to me being in control. The phone he is using or let's say not using to call me and blow me off is under my plan. Let's say he finally decides he needs me...(at least for that moment) and goes and starts up the phone dials my # and the phone says "sorry no service". hmmmm....is it wrong of me to just say well enough is enough you be the sucker now...wonder how I had enough strength to turn off your phone. My plan is if he doesn't call at all tomorrow after rearranging my plans the phone goes off on Thursday. Sure it will cost me $165.00 but worth it to finally be the OW who comes out on top. How empowering it would be to have the strength to get rid of 2 rotten men in my life when they never saw it coming. But then there's the loving part that just doesn't know if I can be that cruel...the difference i had no love for my x-husband...this man I fell for long and hard!! I know shutting off his phone would hurt him and he would never forgive me but then again why drag on him hurting me. He obviously thinks he can blow me off day after day after day and I'll stay around. Would just love to hear his excuse but I know I would fall for it and go back.
So your vote?? Be in control and shut the phone off or have a final goodbye if he calls??

I haven't seen you post here before but looks like you have a handle on things. I have just one thing to say to you and that is, "YOU ROCK!" Good for you not responding to his emails. NOW, take the next step and block him from sending them, or better yet, get a new email address. You are the one in control of your destiny, and sweetie, "He's NOT it :)"
Stay strong,
~True~
Shut the phone off.
I have read your posts and I have to tell you this MM sounds like just as big an abuser as your husband, he found a woman in a bad situation and has taken enotional advantage of it and then used you to screw with his wifes head, CAN YOU SAY NO GOOD LOSER, DUMP HIM, you called it right when you called him SICK.
Jmho
Free
But I do agree, I was an easy target for him and his ego and now a little too much trouble now that he has his wife cooking for him every night again, and loving him 100 percent!! Boy, I don't even get a thank you from him...how nice!!
thanks for your help!!
Who needs all this heartache. Today I finally closed the email account I shared with my XMM, that no one else knew about. I feel very empowered and so will you. It feels wonderful to be back in control. Do everything you can to keep that feeling alive. I also divorced my husband last year and ended my A in June. It was very, very hard to keep NC and today I feel like I have finally reached a turning point. My A went on for 5 1/2 years and when his W found out he denied how long and intense it really was. I was heartbroken, but now I see that it's his loss. I still have an eerie feeling that one of these days he'll be back, but I intend to remain strong and free.
Take care of yourself first and good luck.
maria