He probably had a few at the neighborhood watering hole. Tell me something, Alice. Just how did this txt get through? I take it you haven't deleted him from your cell phone yet. Why not?
Let him stew. Heck, if I were to write here *all* the "Hate mail" I wrote in my journal to Xmm, they would lock me up in the looney bin. ;-)
Like CSN said, "Let it go." He's pissed but so what? It will pass.
How pathetic. This man who led you along, down the wrong path and now he has contempt? Well f*&% him... not literally of course- that would be breaking NC. But really? How dare he? I am sorry you had to receive that text. I hope that you can block him so you don't have to deal with that anymore.
You know what is best, however doing it is the tough part. You need to make peace with YOU not XMM. Its YOU that matters, your H, your kids, that is where you should place your efforts.
Ive been there Alice, and you helped me through it. I know how you want to "save face" with him, I know how you want to him to see that who you are right now is not the person that Alice really is. But we cant show them that with that fog. We spin our wheels and end up wallowing in our own self pitty and at the same time realizing that we have just sunk lower than we thought we could. You are not the woman that you are right this minute because the A turned you into someone else Alice. It did all of us. We all did things that we would have never done had it not been for the A.
Its time to GET YOUR LIFE BACK!! Your emotions are so raw right now, you are hurt and to top it all off there is ZERO self esteem and self respect left. I had to sink lower than I thought I ever could before I finally told XMM I wanted NC. I cried in my car, scratch that, I BALLED in my car. But I knew what I had to do and Alice, I didnt do it for anyone else but ME!!!
Alice,
I'm so sorry you received that hateful message.
He probably had a few at the neighborhood watering hole. Tell me something, Alice. Just how did this txt get through? I take it you haven't deleted him from your cell phone yet. Why not?
Let him stew. Heck, if I were to write here *all* the "Hate mail" I wrote in my journal to Xmm, they would lock me up in the looney bin. ;-)
Like CSN said, "Let it go." He's pissed but so what? It will pass.
((Hugs))
~Iddy~
Alice,
Is your xAP single?
NC since Dec. 9th 2009
No Contact = No N
How pathetic. This man who led you along, down the wrong path and now he has contempt? Well f*&% him... not literally of course- that would be breaking NC. But really? How dare he? I am sorry you had to receive that text. I hope that you can block him so you don't have to deal with that anymore.
Hugs,
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Alice,
You know what is best, however doing it is the tough part. You need to make peace with YOU not XMM. Its YOU that matters, your H, your kids, that is where you should place your efforts.
Ive been there Alice, and you helped me through it. I know how you want to "save face" with him, I know how you want to him to see that who you are right now is not the person that Alice really is. But we cant show them that with that fog. We spin our wheels and end up wallowing in our own self pitty and at the same time realizing that we have just sunk lower than we thought we could. You are not the woman that you are right this minute because the A turned you into someone else Alice. It did all of us. We all did things that we would have never done had it not been for the A.
Its time to GET YOUR LIFE BACK!! Your emotions are so raw right now, you are hurt and to top it all off there is ZERO self esteem and self respect left. I had to sink lower than I thought I ever could before I finally told XMM I wanted NC. I cried in my car, scratch that, I BALLED in my car. But I knew what I had to do and Alice, I didnt do it for anyone else but ME!!!
Isn't it we're lucky we are here in EAS and have Iddy, the Vets, and wise ladies to guide and sort our feelings for us?