Have to let go finally....

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Have to let go finally....
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Sun, 07-25-2010 - 7:11am

Hello ladies


I am sorry I havent posted much but I have been reading and lurking.... It answers a lot of

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Sun, 07-25-2010 - 8:43am

Hi Sunbeam,

Congratulations on the beginning of NC. Very proud of you to take the last step and stop the A and move on with your life. You have come to the right place for support!

Take care of you!

MO

MovingON

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Sun, 07-25-2010 - 9:04am

Sunbeam,
It sounds like you are off to a really good start with a solid and forthright ending. Please try to do a block and walk by blocking all of his texts and email - that will certainly help with the 'weakening' you mentioned. The next couple of days are going to be the hardest, but it sounds like you've reached that fed-up wtf stage, thank goodness. Post here often and get out of lurkdom.

Wishing you strength and peace,
Dee

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Sun, 07-25-2010 - 9:10am

SB, you've been stopping and starting with this guy for several years now. I know you ended it for a while and then he friend requested you on FB....that was back in January. Have you been in and out ever since? Seriously, honey, this has got to stop. I know you used to read this board all of the time and used to be a regular poster, so it's not like you are naive in what needs to be done to end this for good.


It's time to GET REAL, SB. This man is obviously an addiction for you, but how far are you going to

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 12-29-2008
Sun, 07-25-2010 - 4:08pm

Hi Iddy


Yes i have, its been exactly 4 yrs more off than on tho i have to be honest. I was doing really well until like you said he contacted me in jan. No it hasnt been on off since then. I hadnt heard from him until 2 wks ago when i go a ive moved home msg hope your ok... we texted then nothing and then fri night... he texted me and thats when i went over....


I dont think that i ever really deep down wanted it to be over, fully over. and yes I have been like a yoyo. but i am so tired of it.... and yes it will be the last time. Like you say its time to get real and its time to stop torturing me, and my family... cos it does affect them all.. even my friends notice a change in me.. Im moody, weepy, distacted etc so it has to be THE

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 3:57am

Hi,


sorry for the late reply, im in england so time diff etc;


Thank you for your lovely reply. It is now day 1 of no contact for the last time and today i feel good.


I feel better for telling him and meaning it! I know that I dont love him, I thought I did..... silly me but i dont. But I do love my dh and dc so... thats the best reason to say it and mean it.


I will be around for a while so i look forward to talking to you.


thanks again


sb x

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 4:01am

hello and good morning to you,


sorry i didnt reply yesterday I ran out of time... but your reply was very nice thanks.


I do think at last I have reached the wtf stage.... I have blocked and walked and im not going to go round in circles anymore... straight line for me now.. out of the fog and

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 5:12am

Hi Iddy,


sorry I forgot to answer a couple of your points:


No dh has no thoughts about another man... he knows i havent been right, but he doesnt know why not... I have suffered from depression for a few years and when Im low becos of ex ap he puts it down to that... He certainly doesnt help it does he!


I will seriously think of therpy, I have a couple of good friends who know about the situation and who are very good to me... and yes their patience has worn thin and I have had tough advice from them,

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 6:14am

(((SB))


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What's most important, honey, is that you make this promise to yourself. Somehow it helps to keep us flying straight because we don't want to let ourselves down anymore than we have. We just get to that point where something has got to change and we are the only one who can do that.


I'm sorry about your depression. I have battled that for many years too and have found that by eliminating stress factors,

   ~Iddy~