Have to see OM twice this week

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Registered: 01-02-2004
Have to see OM twice this week
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Tue, 05-25-2004 - 7:01pm
Well, I have successfully managed to avoid OM for almost 3 weeks now, except for some e-mails back and forth. This week, however, I will see him twice, once at a work-related function (board of education retirement dinner) which is tomorrow evening and then again this Sunday at a birthday party for a friend/co-worker.

Now, I know for sure his fiance' will be at the party this weekend, and so will my H. I am going solo to the retirement dinner because it is more of a work-related event. I don't think he is bringing his fiance'.

This is strange for several reasons. #1 - I haven't seen him in 3 weeks and haven't spoken to him in almost 2; #2 - I frankly get nauseous at the thought of having to interact with his fiance' again (met her once and she was not nice to me, and this was even before I even really knew OM); #3 - I am afraid of the feelings that seeing him will bring up.

I have been doing good, hanging in there and being strong. I worry that seeing him will bring back a confusing mix of feelings. OM has already suggested meeting for drinks next week to "catch up", which I deemed as just another ploy to see me in person.

Any advice/words of support? I know this will be awkward no matter what I do, I guess I'm just looking for some support.

Thanks

:)

Circe

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:43pm
Since you have been doing so well and are worried what this contact might do to you, is there any way to get out of going to these functions? You need to think about YOURSELF and how this will effect you. If there's even a small chance that this could bring back some bad feelings, then avoiding these events all together might be the best thing for you. The work-related event could be a little harder to avoid, however there are tons of excuses out there so you have plenty to choose from. After battling a rollercoaster of emotions, you don't need anything setting you back again. Good luck and do what's best for you.