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| Fri, 02-26-2010 - 4:49pm |
Have you or do you plan to tell your spouse about your affair?
- Yes, I've told
- Yes, it's the only way I will stick with NC with AP
- Yes, I haven't yet, but plan to tell him/her
- My spouse discovered it for him/herself
- No
You will be able to change your vote.

Thank you "work at home" for starting this thread and so sorry for changing the subject in a couple of spots.
Actingasif
I'm so sorry you are dealing with the pain and guilt on your own. From the way your H reacted to dinner, I'd say you are right not to tell him. I thought me telling my H might end my marriage, but so far (only a week after telling, though) we are trying to get through it. My A only lasted about a month in total which is probably the reason we are not separated right now. H made it perfectly clear that any longer and he wouldn't be around right now.
As for your friends, I am sorry to hear that, too. If they were church friends, you might have been misguided to share the info with them. I only shared the info with a friend who I knew had been in my situation previously. Even so, she was extremely judgmental and harsh about the whole thing. You could be right about your GF's husbands.