Having a hard time...

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2008
Having a hard time...
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Wed, 12-22-2010 - 11:38am

I kept checking his fb page yesterday and this morning.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2010
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 12:00pm
Hi Livin...I'm sorry you're struggling today and I understand. Good for you for blocking his FB page. I got burned cyberstalking by seeing a family picture on xap's W's page...I haven't cyberstalked since! It truly only brings hurt to us when we do that. These relationships bring out things in us we never knew were there, i.e. obsessive behaviors. I'm glad you are accepting responsibility for your part in the A, just be gentle with yourself. We all made horrible mistakes but are now choosing what is right. I've found that when I'm having a bad day I just tell myself to push through it and that better days are coming. :)

Hugs!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 12:28pm

Hi Livin,

aww sorry you are having a bad day.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-15-2010
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 1:24pm

Livin, I feel bad for you and sorry you're struggling.

Keep reminding yourself the only thing to be gained by checking on him is hours of misery. You don't want that for yourself. The obsessive ruminating over him might be painful but it must be more tolerable than the years of anguish ahead of you if you were to re-enter the A.

You made a decision that was painful but right for you...I'm guessing, that like everyone here, you didn't make it easily. You made it because being in the A was just unbearable.

Don't add to your hurt, sweet....take the advice of Bodhi (and I think thanks go to Iddy? for the idea) - step away from the computer, get a big notepad and some fluoro happy crayons, and fill up a circle with all the happy things and blessings you have right in front of you.

Then stick it on your fridge.

Thinking of you from the other side of the world! xxx

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2008
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 2:50pm

Thanks to all of you for your support.