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Having a Tough Day
| Fri, 11-05-2004 - 4:45pm |
I've been trying really hard to not allow xMM back in. He keeps emailing my work account (the one I can't block or stop using). I know I don't want to fall back into the mess that he is, but I feel like he's wearing me down. He knows exactly the right things to say to make me miss him and so far I've resisted, but it hurts. I'm trying to be strong and remember what a jerk he is. Unfortunately, with things being as bad as they currently are with my husband, I am so in need of some male attention right now. Please help me stay strong.
Thanks, Blue-eyed

Because of that serial cheating rapest your no longer injoying the hugs of your HUSBAND, the kisses of your HUSBAND the smell of your HUSBAND or the LOVE OF YOUR HUSBAND he did this to you and are you really tempted by this home wrecking jerk, he has effectively destroyed your family and youe life how much more are you going to let him do to you and your HUSBAND.
I don't buy this stuff that he can not be blocked at work I am in the IT bus and your network people can block anyone they want to, just tell them your being harrased and that you need this guy blocked they can do it in minutes.
You don't need male attention you want it, or rather your ego wants it.
X married cheating jerk cannot force you into a relationship you do not want, you choose to or you choose not to have anything to do with him but it is your decision not his the power is yours not his, the responsiblity for the fallout is yours not your HUSBANDS.
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I completely agree with you regarding how b/c of xMM, I don't enjoy my H. But, I don't think all blame can be laid on me. My H & I were rarely having sex prior to my A (he was never in the mood), then I had the A, then H found out about it last spring, and he says he's forgiven me, but he literally refuses to be initmate. I can count on one hand the times we've been initimate since he found out, and that's been 6 months. Last night I really gave a go at it and there was nothing, no response. I started to cry b/c I just don't know how to get it back.
I DO NOT want to go back to xMM and I have been working really hard at it and so far have been successful. I just feel lonely I guess. But I WILL NOT go back.
Did you and hubby ever get any professional help to deal with the problems that pre existed the affair.
Did hubby ever have his hormone levels checked to see if there were any physical problems?
Your hubby needs to get help dealing with the emotions, just deciding that you forgive your spouse does not heal the wounds.
I am a big fan of fixing marriages but if you are unable to get your hubby totally involved in doing the work that needs to be done then a legal seperation and only have above board relationships/dateing and stay away from Mr tiny Penis.
If you use Outlook for your mail at work then all you need to do to block him is to bring up one of his e-mails then click on Messages > then click on BLOCK SENDER > very easy just follow any prompts you see.
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