He betrayed me again....how to handle?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2010
He betrayed me again....how to handle?
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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 7:10pm

Hello everyone,


I need some input on how to handle the latest chapter in this never ending drama.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2007
Thu, 06-17-2010 - 7:41pm
What a mess. She is not much a friend when she is continuing to fuel the fire. I would block and delete her from facebook and any other communication. She needs no explanation.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2009
Thu, 06-17-2010 - 8:54pm

Don't text him. Ever. Forget he ever even existed. You can't control what he does. It seems like he is on a prowl for the next AP, and your "friend" may be interested to take your place. You don't go around and talk about your affairs (especially when you had dday on both sides) to people you barely know, as a grown man he knows it full well and don't need any reminders.

Take care of yourself and try to lessen the contact with this friend. You don't need to hear about him and his glorious post-affair life. But I really think he's digging your friend. His poor wife.

xoxo
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
**Bloodied but unbowed**
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2010
Thu, 06-17-2010 - 8:59pm

It's really a disaster Keep :(

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 06-17-2010 - 9:55pm

KS,


You do nothing. Let me clarify that you do nothing in reacting to this information. What you can do is extricate this woman from your life by first "hiding" her on FB so you are not tempted to read her page. Better yet, you should just close your account. If you delete her, no doubt tongues will start wagging and it will all be gossipy speculation that you don't need. As far as talking to her, do not seek her out. If she calls you, do not be available for a while until you've had more time to think this through. Let your answering machine pick up if you have caller ID, or hit the ignore button on your cell phone and let it go to voice.


You are VERY fragile right now with oozing wounds and raw emotions after every thing you've been through. I read in another post of yours that you went to XAP's place of business and parked your car in the lot, hoping to see him. This has got to STOP.

   ~Iddy~ 


iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2010
Fri, 06-18-2010 - 1:18am

Iddy,


I loved this.....


This has got to STOP.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2010
Fri, 06-18-2010 - 7:53am

KS,


Don't text him. It sounds like he might be making a subtle move on your friend by using the "poor me" line, as in he would do anything to hold you again and he wanted a life with you. Makes him sound like a really special and sweet guy, doesn't it? Your friend may be falling for it, but it is none of your business.


Of course it makes you sick to your stomach. Proves just how special you were not. They are all POS in my opinion. Chasing one skirt after another to build their pathetic egos. You got caught in his web of BS but now you are FREE.


Stay out of his business and stay out of your friend's business. Don't bring xap up, even though I know you will be dying to know what's going on. It is going to be very difficult for you. Are you getting counseling?


Don't get sucked back into the drama. You've already paid a mighty price for it, hun. Ride out the bad emtional waves, but continue working on the insides of KS, on what's rattling around in her head and heart. Stay strong and focused.


~alwayst2

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.