He brought his wife to my meeting!

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Registered: 03-11-2008
He brought his wife to my meeting!
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Wed, 01-13-2010 - 12:42pm

I am sitting here at work with tears coming down my eyes after reading one of the posts . Especially about the part of revenge and that is moving on and being happy. I have been so sick the past couple of weeks and the desire to not take care of myself has been immense. I have to actually see Him and now I hae to work with his Wife. He brought her to the meeting. I am trying so hard to stay positive and now that all good things come to those who try to do the right things and with ya'lls support, I have had the strenght to smile, be happy but not fake, keep business business, and cry when I am alone in my car. Your encouragement has allowed me to vent and when he showed up at my meeting with her ... I was able to stay strong, hide my surprise and respond in kindness. So, many times Ive thought ... cant you see how badly this is hurting me and I want to either yell, scream, blow up or completley shut down and quit. But, the best revenge, is not lettinghim get the best of me. My mom told me the other day, when I was so down and starting to get sick. She said, " Never let a man take your happiness away. Its a good thing when

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Wed, 01-13-2010 - 12:53pm

Wow, your mom is a really bright and strong woman. You're lucky to have her on your team, as Im sure you already know. Everything she said is dead on. I especially like the part about how he's his wife's problem, not yours. this line cracked me up in a "snort" sort of way: "I mean if you cant be honest with your mistress, who can you be honest with?". It's a killer. On a personal note, I was devastated when I found out that my xAP had had physical hook ups (not sure if it was sex, and it doesn't matter) while we were together. But, now... I'm free of the anger and feeling of betrayal because I tell myself what your mother told you, "he's his W's problem, not mine." He didn't cheat on ME. He cheated on HER, a lot. a whole lot. That poor, poor woman. Man, am I ever glad he's not MINE.

Be your strong, loving, good and composed self during these horrid meetings and don't let yourself focus on the negative!! You can do it and I am eager to hear how it goes. Much love and prayers of support to you!!

Dee

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Registered: 03-11-2008
Wed, 01-13-2010 - 1:01pm

Lol. Your reply made me smile!

"I was devastated when I found out that my xAP had had physical hook ups (not sure if it was sex, and it doesn't matter) while we were together. But, now... I'm free of the anger and feeling of betrayal because I tell myself what your mother told you, "he's his W's problem, not mine." He didn't cheat on ME. He cheated on HER, a lot. a whole lot. That poor, poor woman. Man, am I ever glad he's not MINE."

Lol. I am going to read that everyday. Thanks for sharing. Its crazy when you think about, hmm, he cheated on ME! He lied TO ME! wtf!!! Then, you realize, if I think I got it bad ... let's think about the wifey. At least I can walk away,while she is still left with him. Yep, poor, poor woman to say the least....