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| Sat, 01-22-2005 - 6:31am |
He called this morning and told me that he did get his own apartment and that he missed me and wanted to see me. He told me I was the only woman that drove him crazy like this and He thought about me constantly.
I agreed to meet him today and see his new apartment. When I got off the phone I was thinking "well, now I can trust him, he didn't go back to her and stay with her and they're divorced, so this is what I have been waiting for" and then as I thought about it I started to get a sinking feeling in my stomach. This really doesn't change anything. If he truly loved me he would have fought to stay in my house and be with me. It's been exactly two weeks since I asked him to leave, was he waiting until he had his own place? I don't know what to think. I'm so confused, what are his intentions, are we suppose to "date" after living together? Oh god! I'm so confused and hurt right now. Does he just miss the sex? I don't know what to think or do. I knew It would be bad if he called and told myself that I would just hang up but I didn't and I agreed to meet him. What now?

Aimes2005 writes: <<>>>
I am not sure what you are confused about. You asked him to leave. he left. He got his own place. He called you. Perhaps he was busy AND also wanted down time from the situation. It takes a lot to work, find a new place, get the money situation in order to get the place, the owners have to ready it, you have to move in etc. Perhaps he went into his man-cave to get some things done for himself. Perhaps he didn't want any distractions, perhaps he actually needed time to think (men are human too despite what we think lol). Maybe he did want to be on his own for a lil bit. I think that is a great thing. Maybe he needed some clarity etc. If he is indeed free as a bird and you love him, be grateful he called.
If you are single and he is single...not sure what the problem is. Why not "date"...why not get what we all really want. NORMALCY...ROMANCE...LIVING IN THE DAYLIGHT. HAVE YOUR OWN SPACE TO CALL YOURS WHEN YOU NEED IT for a while..no arguing over dirty socks on the floor lol... Re-court each other. This could be lovely ya know. I can't comment further because I really don't know what you want or what you just think you want. You are probably just reeling from the upheaval and NC and questioning and over questioning things in your mind (i do that to when left to my own device). Take a breath. Go check out his place. Smile. Do-overs just may have been granted but dont make the same mistakes again.
Good luck,
Lizzie
Yes DATE make him EARN YOUR TRUST AND RESPECT BACK, don't just give it away, don't rush things he should live on his own for a few months tell he proves himself to you.
JMHO
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