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He called...help
| Sun, 05-16-2004 - 1:54pm |
To sum it up I have been in a six year long affair with a man that lives several states away from me. I wrote him an email a month ago to end it. I hadn't heard from him since. I knew that he was in the process of a move so I didn't know when he may check his mail....anyway..he checked it last night. He isn't happy about it. He called at 4:50am this morning, drunk. (Hey Mo-maybe our OM's need to exchange numbers lol). He is very adamant about talking and said that he is not happy about my decision. He thinks that I have been getting a divorce underway since we haven't been talking. I have since decided not to leave the marriage. I am going to have so much trouble talking to him about this. I thought I was getting off easy with him not responding to my e-mail and not contacting me. I need some words of strength!!!! Any suggestions on how to deal with this??????? aggghhhhhh!!!!!

You may want to consider if you want to be involved witha drunk that is so rude and self centred that he calls you at 4:50 am, he sounds like bad news.
You decided to stay in your marriage for a reason and haveing the drunk out of the picture probably helped you think more clearly.
He has no rigth to force you to do anything and that includes talking to him, is he a controling type.
He is gone keep it that way and deal with your life.
BE STRONG AND BRAVE
F
You know what, Confusion? He might not even remember making that phone call, or he might regret every last thing he said. It doesn't matter, it's not your problem. I understand that it sets YOU back (at least it always does me). But you have to remember that whatever he said, he wasn't in his right mind. Please don't give it too much thought, if possible, and try to forget the whole thing happened - at least in terms of how to respond to him. I wouldn't bother. The only time I did respond to one of my OMM's drunken phone messages it was a mistake. My OMM is an alcoholic who attempted recovery and bailed after about 100 days, thinking he was cured. So when he called me drunk I was worried about his recovery and responded with a tm asking if he was okay. Big mistake. He tried to turn it into a dialogue. If nothing else, he knew he'd gotten my attention.
Best of luck putting your marriage back to together. It's alot of work, but I'm so glad I made this decision.
And just for laughs - how pathetic are those drunken phone messages???? Like you're going to listen to that babbling slur of nonsense and get turned on and think, "I want this prize back in my life!!!!" LOL. Hang in there, honey. Love, Mo
Have a great day.