he came fishing and I let him :(

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Registered: 01-30-2009
he came fishing and I let him :(
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Thu, 02-18-2010 - 8:47am
oh ladies i feel so disgusted with myself. My xAp who is also my coworker started talking to me again lately (we have been split for a year). It started off with just general conversation for a few weeks then the other day he drops a bombshell on me that he still fancies me and wishes he didn't. He kept bringing up "old times" and how great our s*xlife was and he was being major flirty. This was all over the office instant chat and although i told him to shup up i didn't stop it. Because deep down i liked it. I didn't say anything of the sort back though. He made sure to mention that this was only harmless flirting on his part and that he wasn't single any more so it wouldn't be anything else..I know his gf ,she used to be a coworker with us who he started an R with
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Thu, 02-18-2010 - 9:08am

Gal~


Good Morning.

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Thu, 02-18-2010 - 10:45am

Gal.


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Well, my dear, by now you should have a much better idea "why" than we could offer you. Have you been working on your issues since the A ended? Seen a T? Dug deep into your own shortcomings and weaknesses? Something existed pre-affair in order for you to cross the line in the first place. What have you learned about yourself this last year? Care to share it here with us? Perhaps by writing it out something will click and give you a much needed "AHA" moment. ;-)


((Hugs))

~ Iddy~

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 01-30-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 12:15pm

hi ladies thanks so much for taking time to respond :)


I think the reason i did it in the first place was because I was craving attention and affection. So when XAP came along and swept me off my feet with all the attention I fell hard for him. I thought we were soul mates. Myself and H had drifted apart at the time too. We hadn't had s*x for well over a year and there were a number of issues going on between us. But since then i have been for IC and we both have been to MC and I can honestly say things have improved so much between us.


Ive started to realise that I am constantly craving the approval and

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 1:47pm

Hi GalC,


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Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.