He contacted me after 6 weeks of NC

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Registered: 01-07-2005
He contacted me after 6 weeks of NC
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Sat, 03-19-2005 - 3:11pm
Now I feel like I am right back to square one. I still cry every night, but up until he contacted me it was starting to feel like a healing cry. Now, it's the longing and aching and hurting and heart-ripping-open cry. He is the one that did the NC. Why is he contacting me now telling me he is sorry for all the pain he has caused me? Now he wants to "be friends." Please, Lord, make him totally mine, or make him go totally away. I am not strong enough.
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Registered: 12-05-2004
Sat, 03-19-2005 - 3:29pm

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Doesn't sound like he's going to do either right now, sister. He's got the best of both worlds if you're hanging on.

NC is a two way street. Don't answer the phone next time. Or email. Or IM. Or acknowledge him in the street.

Don't let him hurt you anymore. Apologies can't heal the wounds you have... only time can do that.

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You are strong enough. You just had a moment of weakness. Doesn't make you less of a woman, makes you more of a human. We all do that from time to time. They key is picking yourself back up and dusting off the dirt that he's thrown on you.

You can do it kelly... I have faith in you. You should too.

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Registered: 03-02-2005
Sat, 03-19-2005 - 4:47pm

Instead of thinking about him, think about you. What is it that YOU need and want. How do you want the story of your life to read? Once you make the decision that YOU are done and you accept that, you start the healing process. If NC is his decision you will be hurt until you take responsibility for yourself and take control of your future. No more being a doormat, no more letting him disrespect you. No more. No matter how great a person he is look at the truth of your situation. Demand that he respect you and respect yourself you deserve so much better....but you are the only one who can make that happen for yourself. You can do this.

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sat, 03-19-2005 - 5:15pm

Kelly

Draw strength from the truth, HE DOES NOT CARE THAT HE HURT YOU AND CONTINUES TO DO SO, he called you for the sake of inflating his sageing EGO, if he really cared about you he would leave you alone to heal and get over all this drama.

The FRIENDSHIP stuff is a big pile of stinking hamster vomit, you don't do this stuff to your FRIENDS, this is nothing other then an attempt to suck you back in tell he has had enough of you again and wants to put you back on your leash tell he needs another EGO BOOST.

Tell him to get lost and if he does not you MAY have to contact his lovely wife.

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Registered: 02-22-2005
Sat, 03-19-2005 - 6:11pm
Hey thanks, that post really hit home for me. RESPECT. that's where it's at.
LilRocket
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Registered: 03-13-2004
Sat, 03-19-2005 - 10:41pm

kelly,

he probably wants sex

God helps those who help themselves so u have to do your part, the choice is your to make

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