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He dropped a bomb today
| Wed, 01-19-2011 - 7:19pm |
OH. MY. GOD.
i am so mad and so..... &^%$#$%^&*&^%$#$%^&!!!!!!!!!!
I was doing well today. Saw him a couple times.. no biggie. He comes into my office and asks if he can have a hug. I say no... that's not a good idea. He leaves. He corners me again at end of the day to tell me that if I keep pushing him away someday he won't be there when I'm ready to come back after he's out of the house and there's a reason he needs to stay and it'll all come out soon but I could have pushed him away by then.

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Phew. Well...You know...i can EMPATHIZE with the insanity doled out in bunches by these people.
But Im short on advice. :(
I dont know how you keep your sanity going LC . I dont. I get nary a call or pop in very few and far between and I bend and fold like a willow branch.
Ill say first, IM SORRY YOURE FEELING SO FRUSTRATED! Im sorry, we cant just have these things be OVER when we WANT THEM to be. :(
Second, Everyone on my post gave some great advice to me - if you read that - that might help you as well.
Its so much easier to deal with the pain of ending things - when they ACT DEAD. Unfortunately I guess, selfish people with big narcissistic egos - will FISH and PUSH - to just get a little 'feel good' outta yah...regardless of how that makes you feel, or what you have to go through or do - in the aftermath of selfish behavior.
I guess we gotta toughen up (at least to their faces) and come up with a broken record technique of responding when they do get NEEDY.
Don't allow yourself to feel like the bad guy...yeah, I know, easier said than done, but he is counting on this. Just another ploy. Dodge it...Tell him in no uncertain terms that his personal life is no longer of interest to you. Fake it till you make it, honey. Those of us who have to work with them become great actors. In time you will be able to pick and choose your own script, and I can guarantee you won't want Xmm in your new film. ;-)
Ride out these intrusions with as much dignity as you can muster. He will eventually see that you are no longer traveling the same road you were once on.
((Hugs))
I guess I am a bit confused here because you have ended it no? So, if you've ended it, why does it matter what his wife has or doesnt have?
It's over & he's trying to pull me back like "this is.why I couldn't leave but when this drama is.over I can'...missing the point that a) its over & b) he lied to me about this before. (but for years I've.bought into his manipulations so he's pretty dang confused now!) So, we.ended with me not budging...but saying that didn't change anything.
I knew he'd get desperate but wow. But I am calmer now & just trying to figure out how not to get cornered at work anymore and just need to sound clear with "sorry to hear that".
Thanks guys!
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
((((Konline)))))
Don't be concerned about what is going in your X's life, be concerned about what is going on in yours. He could be telling you the truth about his W, in which as you state he would need to be by her side,
What a coincidence that all this comes out now at the exact time you are finally not responding to him and his advances. Sounds like a desperate attempt to get you to feel sorry for him and bide more time. And if she is really very sick then that would be even more of a reason to end it, so he can do the right thing and devote all his time
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