He dropped a bomb today

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Registered: 07-26-2005
He dropped a bomb today
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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 7:19pm

OH. MY. GOD.

i am so mad and so..... &^%$#$%^&*&^%$#$%^&!!!!!!!!!!

I was doing well today. Saw him a couple times.. no biggie. He comes into my office and asks if he can have a hug. I say no... that's not a good idea. He leaves. He corners me again at end of the day to tell me that if I keep pushing him away someday he won't be there when I'm ready to come back after he's out of the house and there's a reason he needs to stay and it'll all come out soon but I could have pushed him away by then.

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 8:13am
OMG... I was wondering who else had heard the sick W that turned out to either be a lie or exaggerated. Hard to believe someone we trusted so much could do that. Thank you!!!
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 8:14am
The coincidence struck me, too... on both sides. Made me wonder if she's playing him (which I don't doubt, either) or him playing me or both. My thought was... they are both drama queens and deserve each other. But was NOT ready for MM going to these lengths!
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 8:20am
LT - than you so much for your post! What a terrible place to be in! I'm sending up prayers for you!

I feel terrible to say "sorry... but it doesn't change anything" if he's saying he needs his best friend, but if I was TRULY his best friend, he would have told me the minute he found out. I suspect (after sleeping on it) he knows it's not a big deal and exaggerate it... which makes me ill to think he could do that. Maybe I'll hold my head up, take the high road and say "looks like you need to focus on her now."

I won't obsess - because, unlike your case, I don't believe it's serious (like I said, going to h*ll if it is!). But can't be that heartless with anyone else once it comes out (oh, and the fact that his other best friend, our mutual bf, doesn't know, SCREAMS that it's a lie, don't you think?).
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 8:37am

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 10:39am
iamnumberone1 wrote:

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 11:08am
My exAp's wife had cancer and that's why he had to totally care for the kids for a week and could not see me at all. This was before I knew he was married. I was so supportive and nice, even offered to help with the kids. Ugh...she did not have cancer, she had just had their new baby....yep, not only did he hid the fact that he was having a baby, he also hid that he already had a wife.
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 11:21am

It just amazes me to the degree AP's would go to get the feel goods, it really does. When i was in my A, i admit to lying, but i would never stoop to the level of saying my H had 'C' that is just inhuman.

Konline he most certainly dropped a bomb today, now run!

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 3:08pm

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 3:18pm

K- It doesn't matter if she really has cancer or not.

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 4:00pm

I wish EAS board was like FB where you could put a like on your post. Heartache you are dead on. I also like the idea of telling MM that she is going to call the W to see how she is doing with her C.