He Finally Did It

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Registered: 08-24-2004
He Finally Did It
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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 4:50pm
xMM finally did it. After dumping me, then reinstating contact, then saying we could be friends, he finally pushed me over the edge. Today he emailed me a couple of times, and then sent one final cruel email that was specifically designed to hurt me in a way only he knows how. So, I have officially blocked him from the email accounts that I can & will no longer be using the one email account I cannot block him from. I am angry, I am hurt, and I'm not going to take his s??? anymore.

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 5:00pm
THANK YOU JESUS !!!
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 5:03pm
hi there Blue-eyed--

Congratulations!! You will now be well on your way to recovery! I learned on this board recently that anger can be a great tool in helping us to maintain NC after the A ends. Use that anger in your recovery, but don't hold onto it too long. A little anger in the beginning can help us stay on the right path, but if it stays inside us too long, it can become destructive to our well-being.

Your A is over, and that's always difficult, but I am so happy for you :-)

Meg

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Registered: 08-24-2004
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 5:18pm
I thought you'd love it!! That loser, not well endowed by nature, piece of turd is out in the gutter where he belongs!!
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 5:26pm
Blue

I do

A LITTLE FELLOW IS HE.

Free

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Registered: 08-24-2004
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 5:32pm
So little I may just start laughing - hehehe
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 5:39pm
Blue

Hey they don't call it WEE WEE for nothing eh, I guess it's not just his EGO that needs proping up ;o)

Free

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Registered: 08-24-2004
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 5:46pm
No, they most certainly do not. Thanks for the support!!
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 5:49pm
Believe me it has been my pleasure.
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Registered: 10-18-2004
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 2:15am
Hi there Blue,

I know what you are feeling because I've been there....many times. My controlling, manipulating, sorry excuse for a man XOMM cut me out of his life after 6 yrs. simply because I did not return his phone call. I swear, WHY do we put up with all this crap? I do understand your anger because I am feeling it.

I want to warn you though, there have been so many times over the years that I was SO determinded to end it, only to have him contact me to say how much he misses me and how much he needs me....in the PAST those words always made me melt and all that anger I felt dissappeard in a matter of seconds and I was sucked right back in. Please don't let that happen to you. Please be RESOLVED. I now realize that I could not stick to ending it with him because I was not emotionally ready to end it. In my mind there was always that little crack left open in the door and he knew how to wedge it open. NO MORE. This door has been shut, dead bolted and sand bagged. The one thing that is different from all the other times I said "no more" (only half heartedly meaning it) is that THIS time my pride, self worth and self respect is on the line. I am finally starting to enjoy life without the XOMM in it and it is such a great feeling.

I know it sounds silly but one thing I do that helps is to listen to music from before I knew him that brings back good memories of other times (pre XOMM). Like I said, it sounds silly but it really helps me.

Praying for you to keep strong!

Cowgirl

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 9:21am
Hey cowgirl,

What was the longest you guys were broken up before you went back to him? Just Curious because six years is a long time for an affair. Mine lasted 3.5 years.

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