He Finally Did It

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Registered: 08-24-2004
He Finally Did It
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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 4:50pm
xMM finally did it. After dumping me, then reinstating contact, then saying we could be friends, he finally pushed me over the edge. Today he emailed me a couple of times, and then sent one final cruel email that was specifically designed to hurt me in a way only he knows how. So, I have officially blocked him from the email accounts that I can & will no longer be using the one email account I cannot block him from. I am angry, I am hurt, and I'm not going to take his s??? anymore.

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Registered: 10-31-2004
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 9:29am
God we have very similar stories. I just ended my 5 year affair with a man who is incapable of loving anyone, including himself. He stood me up at the hotel last week and that was the final straw. I like the analogy, door has been shut, dead bolted and sand bagged. That is exactly how I feel. I will no longer invest my energy and love to someone who isn't going to return it.

I know what you mean about being sucked back in. I've been there so many times, but no longer. We have to stick together and help each other through this.

Hugs go out to you all!

No longer Jimmersgirl99

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Registered: 08-02-2000
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 10:20am
Good for you! Stop letting this person into your life in any way. Even if he calls you back and is nice, forget him. It's pointless.
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Registered: 04-26-2004
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 10:29am
You ladies crack me up. So.....size does matter, contrary to my sex ed class in high school. ;-)
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Registered: 08-24-2004
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 6:47pm
Hey Blue Eye Babe,

Hehehe - size does matter to a certain degree, but for me its always been about the person. W/my xMM, when he became a teeny tiny person emotionally, that's when it mattered to me b/c I realized that he was soooooooo over compensating for what he clearly lacks. But I'm proud to say I will not inform him or others who know him of his lacking - just my dear friends on this board :-)

Blue-eyed

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Registered: 08-24-2004
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 6:53pm
Thank you thank you thank you to all of you who posted such encouraging & supportive messages. I know what you mean about the self-respect/pride issue. I always had really high self-esteem before the A and it definitely went down hill during it. So I'm really looking forward to regaining it. As far as him weasling back in - he's already tried, at my work email that I cannot block (I'd forgotten he had it b/c he only emailed me once before on it back when I started my new job 3 months ago). He emailed about his "feelings" - and boy did I roll my eyes on that. Funny how xMM all of a sudden has "feelings" that need to be addressed only now after I stood up for myself. It felt good to laugh at him - although of course he had no idea I did so. Hopefully my silence will send that message! Bye-bye self-respect drainer!!

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