he fished, but didn't expect what he got
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| Thu, 02-25-2010 - 12:11am |
ladies,
i am shaky and tired and a little dumbstruck, but i am free. xap fished all day saying that he wanted to be transparent to me, wanted me to trust him, wanted me in his life. confessed that he has a "nasty habit of chatting with other women" to provide a false boost to his ego, but that it was over. swore it would never happen again. wanted to give me access to his email account as i had requested previously.
i signed into his email account and found that he had been attempting to chat with others today even, that he has accounts at various singles and matchmaker's sites, and that in general he appears to be a compulsive liar, a compulsive womanizer and god only knows what.
i texted him back after looking through all his stuff--and told him that it was over and asked him to please not contact me anymore so that i can begin to heal. can you believe that he was angry?!? i asked him to please delete my photographs from his email account, and he said "do it yourself."
so, girlfriends, that is exactly what i did. with shaking hands i deleted every letter, every text message, every picture that we had ever sent or rec'd from each other off of that account. there are no shreds of hope, there is no more fog. it's a sad, sad thing, and it is finally over.
lillie

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Lillie,
Yes, sometimes a ritual, like you did with the "cleaning out" of the account, can help with saying good bye. I'm happy you feel it moved you forward.
Hugs,
Misty
liliealma,
I agree with Vic, sometimes you just have to do what you know you have to do. Telling him you were done is A-ok in my book. Sometimes I think that action is required so you don't have to put up with the stupid fishing. Of course that's assuming they get the "NC" and leave you alone. You sound so determined to go forward - I applaud you for that. I've said this before and I'll say it again, pushing that delete key is very empowering. I'm so proud of you for taking every step you can to reinforce your decision to end the affair. My affair was mostly all email
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