He is going to Hawaii with her
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| Wed, 12-29-2004 - 3:56pm |
I dont know what to think.
He told me that he did tell his wife that he did not want to go.......but for Xmas she gave him a ticket to Hawaii to be with her and her family (they live in Japan). He said he was upset but that he cant not go. I said that was not true.
My earlier email this morning talked of our conversation when he call my work today.
Then I get this email from his W ....
((I’m not sure where we stand right now….. I got _____ a ticket to Hawaii for Xmas even though I wasn’t sure if he wanted to go there with me. I was already planned to go there to see my mom. When he saw the ticket, he looked really shocked but happy at the same time. He cried and held me thanking me for getting the ticket…. I think we both need a relaxing week in a tropical place to clear our minds….
I’m looking forward to going to see your family and having Mochi on New Year’s Day! It will be a treat.)))
OMG - what is happening? Is she trying to throw me off? Is she trying to get close to the enemy???? who is lying.
I am afraid of telling him tonight on the phone that he can not contact me anymore until he files for divorce.......
I know I have to do it.
I know that he cares..........but is he confused or is he a freakin jerk????
I feel sick

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Anna,
I have to say that I agree with all, especially Posie & Undone.
Posie - you made me realize alot about what I did to xOM (I'm usually thinking about what HE did to ME). I told xOM I wanted to leave H for him too (heat of the A, I guess). Right before xOM ended things w/ me, I went away to London for 10 days w/ H. Even though there was a part of me who WANTED to leave H for xOM, I knew I wouldn't...if I was going to, I would have. Instead, I continued to lead two lives. I'm sure xOM realized that. Anna, you must realize the same thing. No matter what he says, actions speak louder than words.
Undone - <<>>
I couldn't have said it any better myself. I told myself that if xOM hadn't left me, I just may have left H for him...but really, if I'm honest with myself, I know I never would have.
Anna - you have to let go...it's the only way YOU will ever be happy. Stop worrying about him and what he's doing. Start putting yourself first.
Diva
I'm new to the boards and not familiar with your story but one thing struck me:
"I’m looking forward to going to see your family and having Mochi on New Year’s Day! It will be a treat"
You quote that from an email from his W to you - can I assume she is aware of the A, or are you friends with his W apart from that? How come she will be seeing your family?
Personal questions I know, but leads me to wonder just how complicated this could get.
To address the issue - I agree that actions speak louder than words, and I would be concerned in either event; he is lying to you or his W is, and this could just be the beginning of a nasty campaign of hers to play games with you both.
You deserve far better and a relationship on equal terms.
A man's got to do what a man's got to do.
A woman must do what he can't.

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