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| Thu, 01-21-2010 - 9:15pm |
OMG...It is day 5 for me of NC from AP.
| Thu, 01-21-2010 - 9:15pm |
OMG...It is day 5 for me of NC from AP.
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MS -
First of all, you need to block his email address from your account.
DO NOT RESPOND!!
We are here with you, asking you to dig deep to find that inner voice that is screaming to you ... "DO NOT CONTACT HIM". It's a pathetic attempt to get you engaged 'hey blondie'?! Please. That's what he has to offer? That's not even an email worthy of a reaction (I know it is the symbolic nature of it, not the literal wording), but still. You are stronger than this. You don't want this. You get to walk away and leave him hanging there ... like so many moments you have probably spent hanging there waiting for him to 'arrive'. The best thing I ever did through this whole mess, was end it. I couldn't have imagined how much more painful this would all be if I didn't have the last say. You are in that position. You are in the position to say 'enough'! OMG I know it takes strength you don't think you have, but darn-it woman, you survived the A, you can survive ending it.
Stop spinning, plant your feet firmly on the ground. Take some slow deep breaths, and start breaking down the time. I will not email him back in the next 15 minutes (just like the vets advise) ... just get through now.
Pulling for you to pull for you.
Jodi
Myshadow,
The ladies (I’m sure the gents would too if they were around) that were on the first alert response team gave some great advice! I would only add to write what you would say if you did respond here in a reply to your own post. Let him have it! Tell him how rude the Hey Blondie thing was. That you ain’t fallin for it! Do it all here and let it all out and that helps the urges to email him back.
Also write down if you really did respond to him nicely. How do you think he would respond and so on.
I think you will see that in the end you will gain nothing and other than saying hey how are you and I’m ok.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
In 6 minutes it will be 2 hours since he messaged me.
myShadow (cuz surely this isn't the real me)
I am 40 odd years old and I am sitting here crying because I can't have a MM.
myShadow (cuz surely this isn't the real me)
It doesn't matter how old you are. The hurt is the same. I know how you feel with the crying. I feel like I cry 10 hours out of the day. Its only been 2 days NC and I am trying really really hard. Not responding is the hardest thing ever. Trust me, I've struggled with it all day. But let me tell you this...I feel better that I went all day without contacting him. I know he expected me too and I didn't. I keep going through phases of crying and being really pissed off. So don't feel like you are alone. I'm sitting here crying too. We just have to believe that it will get easier.
Take care of yourself. /Big hugs
Hi Myshadow,
It’s about self love.
You can go out there tonight and find a dysfunctional relationship but is that really what you want?
Find something you are passionate about and pour yourself into it. That will draw others to you.
You didn’t respond and that means you kept your power.
Much love and big hugs,
E1
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Here it is about 10 hours later and I'm happy with myself for not responding to xAP.
myShadow (cuz surely this isn't the real me)
((MyShadow))
Sorry you have been sick. After I ended my A I was sicker than a dog. I knew it was the stress that brought it on, so please take good care of yourself. Xmm is so not worth having a relapse. Our emotions can play havoc on our health.
You did the right thing in not responding to his unflattering little 2 worded txt. It may have seemed cute at one time but now you need to look at it as insulting.
Hang in there honey. You've only just begun this journey and I promise in a few more weeks you will be in a much more comfortable place. You just have to wean yourself a little longer, and blocking all avenues of contact will greatly assist you in succeeding.
Good job coming here and telling us how this affected you BEFORE you did something you would have regretted. Your power is returning even if you feel like crap. ;-)
((Hugs))
~ Iddy~
~Iddy~
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