he' just not into you!!!!
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| Tue, 12-07-2004 - 4:47pm |
Hello to All,
It took an Oprah show to finally clear my head of the cobwebs. She featured a guy who wrote Sex and City and he wrote this book, He's just not into you! If you havent read it yet go get it.
My MM would of rather walked away silently and fade me out than face the facts that he wasnt feeling the same way anymore. He used to call me daily and see me on a regular basis, but I had an inkling that he was just not the same anymore when the calls came less and less frequently, of course the excuses where always the same too busy with his business, and the all time favorite my phone was down! ( now he has had the same phone carrier since we started seeing each other 4 years ago and he never had any problems with his phone then!!)If your gonna lie make it a good one! But when I would say I think its time we should end this, he would appease me and call me then after a few weeks it would stop. It was like he still wanted me but wasnt sure how to let go quite yet. So I was fed up and sent him a text message saying that basically I am done being Adored one minute and then ignored the rest, when did his feelings change for me?? The reply I got hurt like an arrow through the heart, this is what his response was I Have No Answers! After 4 years thats the response I get.
So now I am left tending to a broken heart and no answers for closure, what does a person do with all this raw emotions??? And how can guys just walk away??? If anyone has that answer please let me know
Thanks and get the book!!
Onthego chick

I totally understand where you are coming from. People who have affairs are usually upside down in life to begin with...unhappy about something, not being real with themselves, etc. You cant expect a person like that to be able to handle things when they get really crazy and stressful! The typical cake eater likes to sit on the fence as long as possible and although they say it is over or act like they aren't interested they aren't ready to let go either. This could have been the situation with your XMM.
Jazzdiva
I very rarely post mostly lurk here but i had to post a reply to this thread. I was in an A for over 5 years. My MM had to move and for over a year we had a LDEMA. We saw each other 8 times during that year. Then out of no where he started to change. Cell phone had no signal, working all the time and the best "he feel asleep"! I knew being in an LDA that this was not going to be easy. I started to not trust him. Not a good thing. Well as my gut told me there was something else - another OW. He met her at work and as he said they were only FRIENDS! Well that was BS. I did some snooping and found out he was calling her all day long. You have to go by your instincts. He still calls and emails me all the time, tells me he will always love me, but he is the type that needs his ego boosted and someone to comfort him. I wish I knew how they can just turn their back and walk away so easily. It broke my heart also. I was hurt and devastated. I wish he had more courage to just tell me what was up then to make those last few months a living hell. I asked the same question you did and basically got the same response. I wonder if these guys have some sort of handbook they read. It seems you can take most of these posts and fit it into your issues with your A. They all have the same weak excuses. I know how bad you must feel beleive me I have been there. Trust your instincts and take care of your HEART because he never will!
Peace & Happiness
Heart
Kathy