He just sent me a text..

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He just sent me a text..
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Mon, 03-08-2010 - 12:20pm

Ughhh..I am here so hoping that you all will help me not reply to XAP text message. He just sent a text saying hi and asking me how I am/my weekend.


I just want to cry..I want to reply..but why?? I feel like a true addict right now..addicted to this..


I can't reply..can't...


RG

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Mon, 03-08-2010 - 8:33pm

Thank you Luvin. You are right..it is none of my business..thanks for that reminder :)


I am so sorry for what you have been through also, how hard that has to have been! I guess I should not be surprised that these men have other A's besides ourselves..but I am to be honest. I mean I just don't get it. But, your right..I need to work on myself and heal.


Thank you again~

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Mon, 03-08-2010 - 10:40pm

runningrl85,

You are more than welcome. I want you to also know that I know it stings. I can truly relate but shifting focus has helped me...and no worries about me, but thanks for the support, I am a trooper when I am pushed. My story although probably hard to read at times....is my own reality, but i am blessed in so many other ways...My A was intense but thankfully short lived, as far as I knew. I have struggled with things related to the A more than the A itself, if that makes any sense. I always try to say....it could be worse. It keeps me going.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Tue, 03-09-2010 - 8:42am
Your XAP had his new OW call you??? I am so sorry you had to go through that. He is one sick puppy.
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Tue, 03-09-2010 - 8:11pm

Why,

Yes, he did. He is a very insecure little boy. We had a ugly ending, a Dday for me (did not know he was M), a Dday for him and his W, it was one big hot mess. I used to post under another screen name. My story, long, convoluted, and just plain sad...did I mention pathetic? If you want to hear it, let me know. I try not to repeat it over and over because it is just that-SAD. But I will tell you this, I am amazed at how I came thru. I made the best decisions I could considering the circumstances and have learned to live with those decisions. I blocked and walked. This has been the hardest thing I ever done and I owe so much of it to this board and my kids. It was the pain that drove me to get OUT. So, yes, he was a "sick puppy." The Vets, including our CL, shed some wisdom and knowledge on me that made me see things (including him) for what they were. I do not take any of it personally anymore. I am one of many of his OW. I am lucky, I managed to escape. Those poor souls falling to his charm. I pray for them regularly.

The newbies were my partnas-spelled that way intentionally. We whined and laughed together. We got put in our place when we got out of hand...all is all, as bad and as crazy as this sounds, that same sick puppy made me betta...While I might not like how I got where I am today, I am happy with where I am...more so than EVER.

Luvin

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Tue, 03-09-2010 - 8:20pm

Lovin,


I would like to hear your story. I tried to email you through your profile, but it says it does not accept emails :(


RG

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Tue, 03-09-2010 - 8:27pm

Why ask Why,


I wanted to let you know, I sent that text that it was over today. I heard your words, I may have not liked what I heard..but you had a point.


I was afraid/hesitant to cut that last cord, that last connection. But, I did it. XAP replied back that he would leave me alone and told me to take care..and that was it..the end.


So, now the hurt comes, but I have alot of anger about the women he was with, so I am hanging onto that. I am suprised he was cheating on me..he portrayed himself in a marriage that was empty. Told me had not been with anyone other than his wife..he seemed so genuine, so sincere, almost innocent and very convincing. Yes, I fell for it, hook, line and sinker.


But I know now, dont I?


Thanks Why :)

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Tue, 03-09-2010 - 9:28pm

I do not know why it says I dont accept emails...hmm, I will try you and it should give you my email address, will also look at my settings, recent screen name change is probably the cause. If you don not get my info let me know...or you can send me your info and we can email/chat, whatever you are comfortable with.

Again, it sounds like my MM and your ExAP are quite similar...to think that there are more of these beings running around makes me cringe! Just be ready for a some "real talk" and be ready to hear some stuff that aint pretty. Just being honest withcha...

Let me know,

Luvin

Luvin
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Tue, 03-09-2010 - 9:30pm
Cant email you either...what to do? i am working on it, send me yours or I will send you enough so you can get to me....K?
Luvin
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Tue, 03-09-2010 - 10:48pm

Huh? Weird..ok..I am going to check mine. I think I know the problem, you have to accept emails somewhere in your profile is an option?


Plus, I think my email is wrong? I think there is one too many "r"..s..I will check and let you know.


RG

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Tue, 03-09-2010 - 10:54pm

Luvin,


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