He knows, I made a mistake...now what?

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Registered: 04-28-2003
He knows, I made a mistake...now what?
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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 11:42pm
Hello Everyone,

My problem is this : I'm the one who was unfaithful. I was with my SO for 6 years, and he had been unfaithful 4 years ago, for 2 years (with someone long distance; he says they never slept together, but he would fly to canada or 500 miles from us to see her). The OM and I did sleep together...

At first my SO was upset, cried and begged to come back. But, after downloading a keystroke recorder onto our computer, which allowed him to access my email passwords, he was able to read all of my emails and conversations with the OM, and printed them all out and references them during our talks.

He is out every night with friends (never went out before) and is saying that he doesn't want to work things out, that i had my chance to make my decision, and he's going to "get his" before he comes back to me. I know he is wanting to get some emotional vengeance and that a lot of what he says and does is meant to hurt me...is it really that transparent? Is it all bull? Does anyone have any experience with this?

It is tearing me apart inside; we had been having problems, and we were on the brink of dealing with them. I feel I made the biggest mistake of my life...What can I do? I want so badly to be with him again. Sometimes I think I can't take this anymore.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 3:29am


If you can get into couples counceling asap

S/O is reacting from hurt and damaged pride and there most likely more smoke then fire, patience is your watch word (and matbe a little groveling).