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he made contact .......
| Tue, 11-02-2010 - 5:45pm |
So back in Sept. I got drunk and emailed him .. bad move.. was the one and only time ..i said sorry never happen again .. never txted him called him or emailed him other then that one time .. our A was over in June ..i accepted the fact that this time for him it really was done and wanted to respect that ... any way i get an alert on my cell that i have an e mail .. usually just spam .. i check and after almost 5 mths theres an e mail from HIM......Of course I read it .. ugh .......... said he wasnt mad over the e mail and then proceded to tell me he just had surgery for cancer! since summer after the last we spoke he had found out after and

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Honey, this is exactly why you DO NOT respond to his email. Look how it has you all in a tither again. What do you think would happen if you did respond? Well, I can tell you what I am pretty sure will happen. It will start up all over again because he is needy right now. My Xmm and I were over for 5 years (we work together), and the day before he was to have surgery, he grabbed my face and planted a big old kiss on my lips. I was knocked for a loop...I just turned around, grabbed my purse, and walked out of the office. He later apologized saying he had a weak moment and shouldn't have done that. This is what your XAP is probably thinking right now...that he shouldn't have brought you into his drama. Besides, he said he is fine so just let this go. Pretend you never read that email. For all he knows, you changed your # and never got it anyway.
I know this is hard, but ending an A is even harder...which I know I don't need to tell you. You don't want to start this up again, so block and walk. BTW, how did he get through to you anyway? He needs to be blocked on your cell.
(((Hugs)))
I did respond.. it was e mail not thru cell contact.. i caved .. i answered.. now i sit once again and wait to see if there is reply .. idk why .. i missed him.. i care..idk what this means for him .. idk why he told me.. back to square one ;( why does this have to be sooo hard .. thx for the reply
Dumb move.
Did you come here for advice that you'd follow or just to hear yourself talk?
GRRRRR.
Dee
It does bite.
I can't answer for you what I would do in your situation. I know for my situation that I am vulnerable for any incoming attention. The pattern for me has been that no matter how long I have been looked over or how much we'll just be friends, my extra super sized heart is always ready to forgive and forget and, unfortunately, get hurt again.
Theysay--
Honey, I know how you are feeling. Just read my post from a few days ago when I found out something terrible had happened to xAP. I know it hurts and I know that it has caused all kinds of those yummy/yucky feelings to resurface.
Here's what you need to do now: Turn the focus back to yourself and YOUR HEALING. You can't do anything for him. Clarity told me that he knows you and knows you care. That's enough. He doesn't need to hear your voice, he doesn't need to read your email. You made him feel good and at the same time, you've made yourself feel horrible. Now I ask you: Who's more important right now? YOU ARE, of course.
Give yourself a good cry and then shut that door again and focus on yourself. You can do it. You've already done it before. You get right back here and start posting and gaining strength. I am right here with you and so are all the other lovely ladies of EAS. Get back to the work you know you need to do, sweetie.
~alwayst2
Best thing u can do is pray for him and move on. No more contact. Regardless of the circumstance
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