Hell...that had to be really, really, hard. I def think the convo probably went too long. But I can see why u got in the car. Not a good move, but understandable. Sorry that he just showed up. That's pretty scary when u r thrown off guard. I remember getting mail n emails n it was tough not to cave...very tough, esp when they are saying all those really wonderful things...hang in there, you now know today's pain passes...with time. He will move on n find someone he can call his own. In time, he will be proud that in the end, you both did the right thing by ending this A....n all the hurt it has caused you. I will be thinking of you mom...I know u can work thru this. Now you know why NC is a gift, a gift for all involved.
Sorry I am late to respond, but I see you've been given some great advice and support. In reading this thread I was again reminded of the MANY ways we need to be supported: reality checks, empathy and WAKE UP CALLS.
My focus right now, is on your personal safety and the safety of your family. I will not dramatize the situation, as there is enough drama on this board to give the Rocky Horror Picture Show a run for its money, but seriously, you are in a risky situation, in fact all members of your family are. You need to start documenting each and every contact he is making ... especially since your have requested NC. You need to keep track of emails, texts, dates and times ... the very unfortunate part Mom, is that your family does not know that they are at risk. You have to have a very tough conversation with yourself to decide whether or not your husband needs to know what is going on. I am sorry your affair partner won't go away. Do you know what the number one risk factor is for women in a relationship? Leaving a relationship! Especially when there is stalking. It may be time for you to really take into consideration whether or not keeping your affair a secret is protecting anyone.
My stomach feels just sick for you Mom. You really are in a very tough situation. This man doesn't seem to think he has anything left to lose. He is not respecting you or your wishes and is indeed desperate.
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Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Thank you Amber for your kind words.
I will get through this (just like Nemo got through his issues :) )
My eyes are all open Bodhi.
MG,
Really?
Lolly, thank you so much for your insight.
I agree, I'm still weak.
((( Luvin )))
Thank you my dear.
"Really?
Sorry I am late to respond, but I see you've been given some great advice and support. In reading this thread I was again reminded of the MANY ways we need to be supported: reality checks, empathy and WAKE UP CALLS.
My focus right now, is on your personal safety and the safety of your family. I will not dramatize the situation, as there is enough drama on this board to give the Rocky Horror Picture Show a run for its money, but seriously, you are in a risky situation, in fact all members of your family are. You need to start documenting each and every contact he is making ... especially since your have requested NC. You need to keep track of emails, texts, dates and times ... the very unfortunate part Mom, is that your family does not know that they are at risk. You have to have a very tough conversation with yourself to decide whether or not your husband needs to know what is going on. I am sorry your affair partner won't go away. Do you know what the number one risk factor is for women in a relationship? Leaving a relationship! Especially when there is stalking. It may be time for you to really take into consideration whether or not keeping your affair a secret is protecting anyone.
My stomach feels just sick for you Mom. You really are in a very tough situation. This man doesn't seem to think he has anything left to lose. He is not respecting you or your wishes and is indeed desperate.
((hugs))
TU,
DISLIKE, DISLIKE, DISLIKE :smileymad:
TU, I didn't think of safety until Iddy started mentioning it...
The man is a ticking time bomb.
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