He showed up at my work!

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Registered: 08-10-2010
He showed up at my work!
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Tue, 10-26-2010 - 10:38am

Ladies,

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Tue, 10-26-2010 - 3:52pm

Thank you N_S...

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Tue, 10-26-2010 - 4:01pm

no shame no shame no shame no shame no shame! I had to say it ONE MORE TIME, for effect.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 12-31-2009
Tue, 10-26-2010 - 5:21pm

Oh Garfy,

First of all, I'm sorry to be so late to respond.

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Registered: 09-28-2010
Tue, 10-26-2010 - 5:28pm
No you don't need to read them; however how in the heck is he sending them to you? Where/why is the door being kept open? Are these being sent to your work account as I can't recall and maybe that is it?

Here is a link to documentation:

http://www.ncvc.org/ncvc/main.aspx?dbName=DocumentViewer&DocumentID=32459

Please get familiar, and while 9 outta 10 idiots like this will go away, i rather you be prepared than in denial. Most of US never would have imagined being "here" but we are, and you NEVER really know someone until they are angry.

Keep safe,

TU.
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Tue, 10-26-2010 - 6:50pm
Don't panic...just be cautious, don't engage with him any further and it might not be a bad idea to check with the local police department regarding their policy on stalking. Maybe a warning in the form of a notice might make him smarten up and move on.

And, as much as it may suck to hear it, you may have to seriously consider spilling your beans to your husband to make for a united front. Perhaps you don't have to spill the entire scope (I don't know your entire scope myself), just enough to have him sit up and listen and feel he needs to be involved.

And, as another poster said, no hanging your head in shame. Yes, it could have been handled differently (so you know now ;), but you stuck to your guns and came here to talk it through and gain different perspectives. You may feel that you are back to square one, but you gained know-how since participating here on EAS and by this experience...and so you know how to handle yourself next time and how best to proceed from here.

Chin up

(((hugs)))
Clarity

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Thu, 10-28-2010 - 11:48am

Michelle, thank you so much for your words of encouragement!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2010
Thu, 10-28-2010 - 11:50am

Thank you so much CSN for your words and time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2010
Thu, 10-28-2010 - 11:54am

Thank you TU for the link, I will check it out right now.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2010
Thu, 10-28-2010 - 11:58am

Thank you Clarity for the great advice.

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