he threw me a surprise party!

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he threw me a surprise party!
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Sat, 04-30-2005 - 1:14am

i just had to share. i was all upset cuz he was in such a rush to mend our last "argument"..well now i know why!!! He was in cahootz with my friend for a surprise birthday party and i didn't know (obviously) so mm figured i wouldn't let come if i was mad at him LOL.....dosen't excuse all the OTHER times he has done that (see "i just don't get him" post)....i just had to share. The *one* time i come on here and vent about mm...and he was actually up to somethign good lol.

jen

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Sat, 04-30-2005 - 11:41am

Well, thank you for reading my happy post. It was nice and heartwarming he would do that for me.

but now i am back to thinking about my other post. It's true that he's not going to leave me be until he moves. i also worry....what if he goes nuts after he leaves? Yeah he'll be far away, he could still call, email...

i am seriously thinking NC. We at least tried the friend thing and we enjoyed alot of it. But we argue so much, it's just silly. i read the responses to the other post and you guys are right.

i love that he did the party. i know he loves me and cares about me. But not enough to stay with me.

Seriously considering NC. Thanks for reading. i don't have alot of friends.
jen

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Sat, 04-30-2005 - 12:24pm

jen,

what did the party accomplised ?, did it make it any better, im sure MM has his own reasons for giving u the party, but in the end he is leaving, u will feel the pain no matter what

as dr phil said, NO CONTACT is the only way, easier said than done i know

as i see it, people can love more than one person at the same time but the level is different, i say most men and women also would love to have thier cake and eat it, unfortunate that there is always someone on the other end of it that gets hurt

be happy, i guess live each day one day at a time, its what i am doing now, i dont even look forward to more than 1 week ahead, sounds depressing but its the only way i know to survive right now

take care of yourself,
max