Healing the shame that binds me

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Registered: 10-16-2010
Healing the shame that binds me
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Sun, 10-31-2010 - 12:11pm

SInce my "run in with JAM" two eves ago and my complete success at blocking him as I strode by, (psychologically and emotionally) have had so many liberating changes, I must say!

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 12:42pm

Melinda-

Wow! What a wonderful, uplifting post.

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 12:53pm

Dee took the words right out of my mouth.


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Registered: 06-08-2010
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 3:28pm
Hey Melinda, I am so inspired by your post. You are doing a great job working on YOU!! I especially give you credit for doing your graduate work. Good for you! I am also working on a Masters degree, and hope to be done by Dec. 2011. While I was stuck in my faulty "A" and all the fog that it brought with it, I couldn't clear my head enough or feel like I was worth anything...that somehow I didn't deserve to have a Masters degree in counseling. After all, I was such a hypocrite by acting the way I did. How could I possibly counsel others? Especially in marriage counseling? So, the guilt weighed heavily...and still does, but since my A fog and the stench that accompanied that has diminished greatly, I can finally see myself as being worthy of finishing the journey in completing my degree and doing something that will be beneficial to me. Because I matter. And to actually admit that, to type that here, is a BIG step. So, I am so incredibly grateful for your post, Melinda, and everyone else here who supports and encourages. Congrats to you, and here's to a new week of NC!! :) Hearts <3
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 3:36pm

omg! im gna post a short reply first (everyone claps)

IM CRYING. I AM ACTUALLY CRYING FOR YOU M!!!!!!

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 10-16-2010
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 4:04pm

Thank you so much everyone!

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 5:22pm
Hi Melinda,

Your feelings in your post are so inspiring! It wasn't until I read your post that I thought about the shame I have been feeling and what I can I can do with that shame. Game over says it's so well, your ready to move forward in your mind and that's great :). I called myself those names as well and they are damaging aren't they? I am so happy for you that you now know you are not those words and are so much more! Good for you about your school and feeling fully present, that feeling must have been so amazing.

Have a nice rest of the weekend :)

Jen