Heard from exOM - Maintained NC

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Heard from exOM - Maintained NC
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Tue, 11-16-2004 - 8:07pm

Firstly, I'm in a packing frenzy getting ready for a trans-atlantic flight on Friday with a just turned 2yr old (is this gonna be fun or what?! LOL). Then there's our usual cat-sitter who's unfortunately had to bail on us at the last minute which means hasty arrangements for the poor critters to be stuck in a cattery. Next, I'm trying to get caught up on paperwork so my stand-in for work has a clue of what he's supposed to be doing whilst I'm away. Amid all this happy chaos, DD wants Mommie to roll around on the floor, so of course I drop everything and oblige.

Whilst DD & I are romping and playing tickle-chase, DH calls me over to the pute. Seems there's an email from exOM that's been there most of the day. In it he acknowledges DD's 2nd birthday yesterday, asks for a recent pic of DD and then sarcastically states that DH must be so proud of DD. He also attached an mpeg of a song which had meaning for us.

You have to understand the lengths to which exOM went in order to get that email to our home computer. You see, not only have I blocked all his known email addresses (work/home/his brother's email/his parents' email/two different internet cafe addresses), and disabled all IM programmes, but because he wouldn't desist from emailing I bought a programme which effectively blocks all communication from a specific ip address. When someone blocked attempts to email, it's bounced straight back at them stating they have been blocked by this programme and the recipient will not accept further communications.

In case exOM wishes to make contact arrangements regarding DD which DH deals with anyway, we have specifically retained one home phone number which is screened by the caller id & a bog-standard answering machine (if it's an unknown or blocked number, it goes to the answering machine where I pick up only after I know for certain it isn't exOM).

In other words, we are virtually unreachable by all but one very controlled method of contact by exOM. We like it that way lol. So it was a surprise to both DH & I that exOM had either changed isp providers from the only one that offers broadband in his area or exOM had travelled miles out of his way in order to find some new internet cafe from which to type his missive.

DH & I discussed it at length and we decided against replying at all. ExOM knows the agreed channel of communication and if he doesn't like it, tough. We just have another ip address to add to the blocking programme LOL. I do have to say, though, that DH did briefly want to reply himself to the effect that yes, he IS proud of DD, prouder still she calls him "Daddy," and that the door to exOM's contact visits remained open through the agreed channel of our home phone number.

So that was my day...

Wishing you strength & peace,
Posie

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 11-16-2004 - 8:45pm

Posie

Good luck on the flight, it's going to hard on your little bundle of energy to site through it.

I can see were your DH would want answer but you folks did the right thing in giving exOM nothing but silence for an answer, at least this way he has know real idea if he got through to you.

Enjoy your vacation.

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