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| Fri, 04-22-2011 - 3:03am |
Hi all
Just thought Id drop you a line and say Hi and that I havent gone anywhere. As I posted recently I have a new job and we bought a new house. Neither of these things are related- I havent had to move or relocate- just a bizarre coincidence that they happened in the same month!!!
So I have had a fair share of stress, highs and a few lows as I think about leaving my lovely family home for

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Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Hey, Iggy, thanks for checking in and letting us know how you are doing. It sounds like "time" is doing it's thing re. healing; that, and RL taking precedence, as it should.
Well I finally have some breathing space and will spend some time responding to posts later today.
My 'good' stress with a new job and buying a new house continues. I call it 'good' stress as at least thus is all positive and something that I can share with my family and lean on my H for support.
Stress from the A was all negative and something I had to bear totally alone- even exAP wouldn't share that load- says a lot huh!!!
I'll write more later but wanted you to know im here, still focussed on my healing, still NC and feeling so much better about it all !!!
Love
Iggyxxx
You sound excited about the new stress in your life.
You sound excited about the new things in your life.
I envy you.
Excited equals happy for me. I like it.
Good thoughts for you and H, new house and job.
We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.
Iggers!
Sunshine and smiles
Kat
Hey friends
Maybe Im sounding stronger than I feel :)
Some days I feel GREAT!!! but other days I still think about the dipstick WAY too much. I hate that I didnt leave with more dignity but thats just something I have to accept. I also get annoyingly tied up in the 'wish I could tell him about my new job/house' etc.
I play the 'conversation' out in my head. I contact him, he ignores me, I feel like sh%t! Thats the only scenario that would happen- and I end up feeling worse- so it helps to reduce the temptation 100 times!!!
We've missed you, Iggy. Thanks for checking in and letting us know you are still on the track to recovery. Keeping busy is essential to healing, and although you still have your moments, you are much futher along than you think. Two more weeks and you are going to be a Tweener, and that's something to be proud of.
My new job has me travelling this week (my poor H is managing the open homes, house settlement stuff)- ugh what a busy time.
Its all looking a bit easier now and I can get back online to my much loved EAS community! I have bought that online book with me and will post my learnings from there this week- its great!
Much love to you all. Im still NC though I have heard some updates about exAP from a mutual colleague who knows his wife. Nothing earth shattering - just how lovely their marriage is, he has has a rough time, she has been his rock, he is showering her with gifts and trips to thank her .... spew. Its been crappy to hear it al but I have avoided that colleague so I dont hear it anymore. I know its probvably not all true but I hate that he seems to have moved on so easily and without any scarring at all. He is happily rid of me and that stings!!!
But it gets easier every day and I have hit my first milestone! I can go a whole day with either not thinking of him, or maybe a fleeting thought, Granted this may only be one day a week and the other days he still seems to take up more head space than I like. But its a start!
My next milestone is to have more of those days than not in a week.
Then a whole week.
Then a month....
It was an 18mth affair- so im hoping that 18mths from my official start date (had to restart mid Feb remember? - I'll be on my road to having several months of not thinking about the dipstick!
Iggyxxx
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