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| Wed, 01-13-2010 - 1:32pm |
I stopped looking on his myspace, but I haven't stopped looking on her myspace... I know, I didn't divulge all information but I didn't think it was necessary.

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Um. tough love? Put on your big girl pants and quit with the dumbass myspace shiz.
Loves ya, but you are thiiiisss close to getting to getting grounded -- and I mean, seriously grounded -- like no TV, no computer, and extra chores around the house.
Lost -
If you truly want to heal from this and move forward in your life, you need to get off the myspace stuff.
I stopped looking on his myspace, but I haven't stopped looking on her myspace... I know, I didn't divulge all information but I didn't think it was necessary.
Who do you think you are talking to here...stupid women?
It does get me angry seeing his "happy" posts on myspace how he "is fallin more and more in love" with his wife makes me want to gag! He portrays himself to be such a family man on myspace.
NC since Dec. 9th 2009
No Contact = No N
Lost~
I know its hard...I think we all have done something along these lines. But it is important for your sanity and well being that you leave well enough alone. And allow yourself to move on. What is it that is holding you back from contuining with your life? Address the real issues of the addiction and then and only then will you begin to heal.
You are bringing all of this on to yourself. My mother once told me "it takes two to fight"...so just remove yourself from it all. YES that means delete the myface/FB accounts. So what if you have friends on there?....keep in touch with email or phone. What did you do before all these networking pages came about? Point is, get back to the basics, focus on you, your goals, your life. Really what are you getting from all of this drama? Hurt, pain, anger,sadness...my guess is everything but happiness. Get off the hamster wheel-youll feel alot better.
((hugs))
just my two cents
Thanks all.
I know I need to be the bigger person in all of this, but it infuriates me that they don't see their wrongs.
For one, if he really didn't care, then he wouldn't want to share and tell everyone about us.
NC since Dec. 9th 2009
No Contact = No N
Lost,
Isn't it funny how when your adrenaline kicks in and you get that mad that it's hard to see the reality? Oh, I know that feeling so well. I too have searched for hours on facebook and done what you are describing. The only one it really hurt was ME!
Just resolve to be the BIGGER person and stop. Literally say out loud to yourself, STOP. I know how intensely hard it is. I know that anger. But silence is the biggest way to get your message across. Believe me. It's being done TO ME right now from xAP.
Just don't even log on anymore. Stay away from the computer for a few days. Don't give either him or his stupid wife a bit of you.
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Life,
"Isn't it funny how when your adrenaline kicks in and you get that mad that it's hard to see the reality?"
NC since Dec. 9th 2009
No Contact = No N
ilostagain,
No Contact = no new hurts
do not respond to her or him, under any circumstances. It doesn't matter one iota who said what. Ask yourself, why does this matter? Responding get you where? It shows both of them you are still in the game, it shows them you are thinking and stewing about them. If you ask me, they are loving the drama and enjoy watching you squirm! Don't let them get to you. Be bigger. Get your dignity and selfrespect back girl! Close those accounts. You do that for you - not them. His wife wants you to keep it open so she can keep tabs on you and watch you hurt. What games!!!!
Well, this has escalated much farther than I expected or wanted. First, he posts this on his myspace now "No apoligys yet u have intill 12am or the game startsMood: Wont 4 get "
I contacted his wife and told her that if she does not keep him away from me I will be contacting the police. She asks me what is happening between the two of us? So I called her and told her he's been calling me blocked and I want him to leave me alone. She then said that she will talk to him and to not call the cops because she doesn't want to be threatened. She said that "she knows people that can screw with me if I call the cops" basically, threatening me too!
I know you all say leave him alone BUT I cannot risk him doing something to my job. I cannot risk this...I don't know. These people are part of a gang, they know the mafia or whatever...they have connections they can screw with me. I don't know if I call them bluff or what...I'm so tempted in getting a restraining order on them!
"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."
NC since Dec. 9th 2009
No Contact = No N
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